Greetings, HotMess! I notice you haven't been active at Atheist Nexus lately. Please check in more often. ;)
Sometimes it can seem a bit fragmented, with different groups for every interest. Please consider a group for socializing, where we talk about whatever's on our minds, Hang With Friends. :D You might feel more at home, more interested in coming around.
I love that sound, but rarely ever hear it anymore. If you garden, go pick up a dozen r so. There is a huge toad in my garage who eats all of the bugs in there, including the fleas from my numerous pets.