My current impression, based on my experience, is that it's far more beneficial for your mental health to have the talk and get it over with. Burying that stress inside takes its toll and it isn't fair that the people who are creating that stress don't share it or, perhaps, even know it's there.
I will add that it may be easier to do in writing. My father posed a question to me over email so I took that opportunity to write a sizable response in an attempt to convey the entirety of my position all at once. I know he read the whole thing and I know that if I had tried to verbalize even a portion of it in person it probably wouldn't have worked.
I wish you lots of luck in dealing with this. It is tough for everyone I guess.
I'm sorry, I never noticed your responses on my page. I didn't know they would appear there.
I currently live far from my parents and have for some time. This has given me the opportunity to explore my feelings and beliefs without the family pressure. That distance was vital for my own development although it wasn't necessarily a conscious decision initially.
I never spent much effort hiding my opinions but I didn't flaunt them either. It was only recently, about a year ago, that things finally came to a head and I had the long talk with them. During that time I felt a lot of the resentment building up of having been indoctrinated as a child in addition to the one-sidedness of their conversations with me. Actually, I might say that the pressure has increased since then in the form of books and videos they've been mailing me. Confessing all has changed me though. I take their books and videos in stride and I consider responding in kind but I realize I've said as much of my piece as they're capable of hearing so I just let it roll over me like a wave. It doesn't affect me too much now.
Hey, I wonder why you posted your latest discussion in the Gay Atheists forum. It it an excellent topic and does not seem to be limited to gay interests. I can't comment on it without joining that group, which I would not otherwise do. To answer your question briefly, yes I have felt resentment.
Hey, I just noticed you are in College Station.
Just letting you know that we have a local atheist/freethinkers group. We meet on Sundays at Sweet Eugene's House of Java for good conversation with like minded people. You can look us up at: http://www.meetup.com/BCS-Atheist-Freethinkers/
or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org