Greetings, Michelle! I notice you haven't been active at Atheist Nexus lately. <sigh> Sometimes it can seem a bit fragmented, with different groups for every interest. Please consider a group for socializing, where we talk about whatever's on our minds, Hang With Friends. :D You might feel more at home.
Wow, I have been meaning to reply for months now! I moved to Salt Lake City a little over a month ago and finally have a job. It's too bad though, because I thought I'd have a chance to meet you and your husband some time while I was in Washington. Good luck on your building project!
Howdy. I myself tried religion when I was in the 3ed grade. It wasn't for me. First, you had to actually get up early on Sunday. This wasn't even a school day! Then put on your suit and TIE! Then I had to go to Sunday School. That was just not right.
Then to the church service. The guy giving the talk said be good or go to hell. Okay, got it. But how many times did he have to repeat the darn thing?
Well, then when that got old (as it did every time I went) I couldn't look out the windows. They had it blocked with this colored glass. Some had pictures and others just chunks of the colored glass stuck in there.
Then, to top it all off, they actually passed these metal plates around and you had to put money in the thing.
Nope, sorry. After a couple of months, my mother asked if I still wanted to go. I said, "No."
Sigh...my only concern is those who have to go back every week to be reminded to be good..... Makes me think I just kinda gotta watch those people...
Wow, I thought that was a great article! It speaks to many of the feelings I've had. I wonder how many other women are out there, pushing away feelings of inadequacy in order to be accepted at church. Too many, for sure.
I'm actually living in Elma right now, which is close enough. I grew up in Adna and went to Chehalis schools though. Winlock is a nice enough place as I recall - I remember something about a big egg...We played soccer there from time to time. You're not originally from around here are you?
Ah, I removed my name right away, but I understand your concern. I don't think my mom even realizes that I'm officially out of the book, meaning I'm not technically sealed to them anymore. I'll keep that on the down-low.
I had to laugh at your "over the hill" at 25 comment. I'll be 27 soon, and am not even married, yet! Of course, I'm hopeless, anyway, lol. My SO and I have been living together for about 15 months, now, and my mom justifies it in her mind by convincing herself that it's *like* we're married, anyway.
Thankfully, I left long before I met this guy, so the family really loves him. They don't view him as pulling me away from the church, since I was already far gone.
I'm enjoying learning more about you through your blog. Looks like life is good!
Unfortunately i live in seattle, where they tend to not care as much, i guess except for the discovery institute people. haha.
Don't lose hope though, i grew up in a small town in alabama, and THAT was hell. :-)
It takes courage to look life in the face and realize that you have insights that the people around you don't express. I hope that you feel a sense of pride for making up your own mind and starting on your own path to understanding. There are probably other people around you who have doubts, but don't admit it even to themselves. They can't since that is the only life that they know.
Hooray! I love meeting ex-mormons! No one else in the world quite gets us :-) My parents are pretty cool about things (in fact, I think my dad might sometimes wish he could be me). It's my sister that's the real sticker. She's one of those holier-than-thou, returned missionary, never leaving Provo kind of people.
Do you have kids? My SO and I are thinking about starting the family in a couple of years... and I'm wondering how tricky it might be to navigate that in regard to grandparents, cousins, holidays, etc.
Living in Canada (a more secular place), I never feel alone or out of place even when I am surrounded by believers. Athiests and agnostics seem to be more accepted here even in rural areas populated by theists. Hope they dont alienate you for your non belief. Good luck - Perry