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Comment by John Camilli on January 1, 2011 at 11:51am Oh my gosh, how emarrassing. I am not a theist, but I was raised catholic, so I am familiar with the prodigal son parable, and I can tell that your mom does not understand the point of the story. The returning son's intentions were to do what is necessary to survive, not to stay in someone else's good graces. The son who obeyed all the rules was only doing so to retain the lifestyle he had, and to appease his father, whilst the prodigal son had given up hope of being called "good," and of living well-off. He is willing to humble himself to survive, thus he is rewarded with an even greater reception (the father does not know this, of course, but it's God's parable, not the fathers, and God would know his intentions).
Your mother is trying to cling to the "good son," not realizing that it isn't people's willingness to serve us that makes them "good." It is only a person's willingness to serve their self, and their lack of desire for gain and benefit that makes them "good." A person is good when they learn to survive on their own, without impeding the survival of others, or through mutually beneficial arrangements (as the prodigal son who would have worked for his father in exchange for food and shelter).
Your mother and father are inhibitting your sister's ability to survive on her own by being over-protective. They are protecting an image of her that relies on them because they like to feel relied upon. In my opinion, most parents have children for this reason - to validate their existence. To me this is one of the greatest crimes a person can commit - to have a child so the child can do something for THEM, because THEY feel a void in their lives that the child will fill. How terrible to conceive a helpless life only to take and take and take from it, and how much worse to blind ourselves to this fact by calling over-protective parenting "love.
Comment by Shannon on January 1, 2011 at 4:03am This is crazy. It makes no sense whatsoever. Don't try to make sense of it.
I suspect you feel really bad about having been "given up" on. Don't despair. You know you have a life ahead of you. One day soon you'll not be dependent on them. Try to meet them where they are and just flow with it. You cannot change other people you can only comfort and reprogram yourself.
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