My wife's sixteen-year-old brother committed suicide on Saturday night. Apparently, he was upset because his girlfriend wouldn't kiss him and he hated the military school he was in (surely among other things). There is nothing that can prepare you for the horror of such a thing happening to someone really close to you.
Though there is nothing that can prepare you, there are definitely some things which some say in order to offer comfort which makes everything considerably worse! At the top of that list has to be "God does all things well and some good will come from this!" NO! There is NOTHING good about suicide! It is always tragic! To even posit that a god of love could have done anything, yet chose not to and still have to call him "good" has got to be the height of unreason and the most telling evidence of brainwashing! Such a person, standing idly by doing nothing could never be called "good" in any comprehensible sense!

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Comment by Clarence Dember on January 6, 2009 at 1:13am
May you always remember the departed, as they were in life.

Comment by Chiropteran on January 5, 2009 at 6:18pm
My deepest heart-felt condolences. My family was also devastated by suicide (six years ago) and it is so tragic.
I'll never forget the minister saying "god called her home"...WHAT? by putting a razor blade in her hand and having her bleed to death in a run-down motel? I just could not believe the cruelty that this man passed off as religious comfort!
As the others have said..stay strong and know there are people who understand and care.
Comment by Daniel on January 5, 2009 at 6:03pm
Thanks for all your support!
Comment by River Otter on January 5, 2009 at 3:10pm
Darn, I am so sorry for your loss. I have never understood why a young person would commit such an act.

I had a friend who's son shot himself in his front yard years ago. It was a horrible for his father and brother. His dad relied heavily on his friends around him, having no family in the state. He got through this eventually, though drowned most of it in Bud Lights. Achohol is not the best way to get though something like that.

Ignore the drivel that the preachermen speak. They are probrably ignorant of your non-belief and don't know how their words actually affect you.

Stay strong and take care.
Comment by greyfoot on January 5, 2009 at 9:53am
Daniel, my sincere condolences for your loss. It is indeed a tragedy, and my thoughts are with you and your family. I'm glad, though, that you didn't succumb to the irrationality that so often preys upon grief, or ANY heightened emotion. Religious people are vultures, and they'll pounce on you when you're down. It's been the secret of their success for millennia. Stay strong and rational, my fellow free-thinker.
Comment by Byron on January 5, 2009 at 9:37am
"The person who commits suicide dies once. Those left behind die a million times, each time asking, 'Why?' "

I can only imagine what you are going through. My heart goes out to you and your wife.
Comment by Daniel on January 5, 2009 at 9:17am
What a great idea! I don't know if there are, but that is something I'll look into. So far, the only "help" has been from pastors and priests.
Comment by Sean the Blogonaut on January 5, 2009 at 9:14am
That is sad news. Are there suicide support services in your area. We have a life promotion team in my town that offers counselling when a suicide occurs as it has far reaching effects on others lft behind?

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