This blog is on sexuality in general, encompassing homosexuality and heterosexuality.

I went to college for psychology with a concentration in sexuality and human relationships. Through my exploits of sexuality and human interaction I have noticed a few things.

1: Everyone can distinguish between an attractive male AND female. For instance, I am straight but if I see an attractive guy I am comfortable enough to say so.

2: Everyone likes to feel good about themselves. Regardless of your sexual PREFERENCE a complement of how attractive you are hold basically equal bearing from and male as it does from a female. Thanks Dallas ;)

I personally believe that everyone has the potential to be gay or straight. I believe that people are people and are attracted to one another regardless of gender. However I don't believe that people are gay because the choose such a decadently luscious lifestyle. There are a few theories on the market right now.

1: Hormonal exposure during the gestation period. I think this a possibility but I think it is the more likely candidate for transgender.

2: It is a part of evolution to check human populations. Possible, nature does have mechanisms for regulating populations of organisms.

3: Choice. Bullshit! What 16 year old kid chooses a lifestyle to get the shit kicked out of him and ostracized by his family?

I believe that society has put a hamper on human sexuality. We are not allowed to pursue and discover our sexual potential because of society. Guys won't admit they they think Robert Downey Jr. is attractive because society frowns on it as being a 'fag'. As a matter of fact I can actually name more actors I think are attractive than I can actresses. Once people become comfortable with what they actually think and feel I think we will see an increase in sexual exploration.


I think that humans have so much sexual potential because of our brain development. We have a complex parietal lobe and it functions in conjunction with our frontal lobe. Because we have a highly evolved cerebral cortex we can experience sexuality in a totally different way than other species on this planet.

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Comment by j on February 11, 2009 at 12:26am
and it is a forced dichotomy: intersexed children are unwillingly reassigned. I was listening to some liar on the BOT (whatever) radio network say "there is no third gender." No dip, because of our prejudice within this homophobic society, doctors butcher infant genitalia...

We would be a better people if we were not told by simple minded bigots that you can only be a "man" or a "woman..." These are the same hypocrites that USED to talk about the sin of mesegenation...
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 4:14pm
You are absolutely right about that. Some interesting studies have been done that show that even without testicles men still have a sex drive. I think it is due to conditioning. After a while your body gets conditioned to acting aroused in certain situations. But without testicles men lose their sense of self and without the hormones they lose so much more.
Comment by A Former Member on February 10, 2009 at 4:09pm
Another things about male dogs is that they seem oblivious to their testicles. When you have them neutered, they don't even seem to notice. Remove a man's and you devaste him for life. This is a little OT of what your post is here, but I just wanted to mention it to make a point about perception.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 4:00pm
That is sad. Religion is such a dam in the path of our rushing evolution and advancement.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 3:59pm
Homosexuality in other species does nothing more than reinforce the idea that homosexuality is a natural thing. Beyond that sex is totally different to humans than most other species on the planet. There is a clan of chimpanzees where all the females partake in homosexuality behavior except to procreate.

We have seen homosexuality in canines but know that it is a show of dominance not sexual. Sex in apes is very different because of our brain development. And as the brain size increases to homo sapien it becomes even more complex.
Comment by A Former Member on February 10, 2009 at 3:52pm
Yeah, I guess none of us should make too many assumptions. I'm half-inclined though to believe he did it because he was lonely and he liked the pleasure of it, and because the girls wouldn't go out with him. Poor guy, his family was so screwed up -- and all because of religion, too.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 3:29pm
That is a hard thing to pinpoint. There are things that happen mentally when someone is raped, especially at a young age, such as PTSD. That could cause that sort of behavior although I can't be sure. What I can say is that he would fall into that gray area. Whether he did that due to the trauma of being raped, because he was lonely, or he just wanted to for the sake of it he would still fall into that gray area. Beyond that I don't feel qualified to make too many assumptions.
Comment by A Former Member on February 10, 2009 at 2:58pm
Adam, I knew a guy in college, and he was straight, but we often had sex. He did prefer women, but he had cerebral palsey and women would not go out with him, which was truly sad. It did not bother me at all that he had CP. Actually, he worked out every day and had a great body, short but well proportioned, and kind of resemebled Billy Zane in the face, but more masculine -- not so pretty boy looking.

He was nice to a degree, but very bitter and came from a very disfunctinal family. Anyway, when I asked him why he liked sleeping with men, he confessed that he had been raped when he was younger and that he had actually liked it. Not sure if he was being honest or not, or what. Maybe that was a false excuse. I don't know. Anyhow, the odd thing is that we never had intercourse, so if he liked being raped, he did not get to relive that experience with me.
Comment by Rickr0ll on February 10, 2009 at 2:50pm
The last part of this essay deals specifically with animal sexuality- so i don't doubt at all any of the point that you say, only to reinforce that Secuality is conditioned by the social structures and survival needs of the species.

I know it's really really long, but it was great!
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 2:44pm
This blog is from the perspective of strictly sexual so discussing relationships wouldn't really fit into it. I can however discuss it here. Let me use bi-polar as an example. Psychologists know that bi-polar disorder is a genetic disorder. They also know that there are triggers in the environment which can cause bi-polar disorder to be expressed in real-life. However psychologists also know that one can have bi-polar disorder and never have any "symptoms".

Now this translates over to homosexuality in this way. There are people who genetically have the potential to be gay but never realize it until they are molested by their father, raped, etc. I think that people look at this as choice when it isn't. There are also people who are raped, molested, etc who are straight. There is no correlation between environment and sexual preference beyond triggers.

Secondly I think you are looking at this as very black and white. I realize I discussed this as black in white but that is because I was only talking about the black and white areas. There is always a gray area which you fall into. For instance, I am genetically straight. I only feel romantic love for women to a great extreme. If I slept with a guy it wouldn't make me gay or even bi, I would still be straight. Dallas, conversely, is genetically gay. He only feels that extreme romantic love for men. However if he slept with a woman it wouldn't make him straight or bi, he would still be gay. The gray area is where one can feel romantic love for either gender. There really is a reason why it is call LGBT. To express humans we could say LGBTS and add straight to the end of it. That truly is human.

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