Losing a family member is never easy. Though during this time I try to ignore my first reaction when people say they will pray for me. I know they mean well, and that is what matters. And if what my grandfather wanted was a Catholic mass, then that is what we will do. Our last wishes do deserve to be respected, within reason of course.

I try not to think about him being gone too much, but it's hard. It is a part of life, but not one I enjoy.

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Comment by deepthought42 on September 1, 2009 at 2:26pm
Sorry to hear that. It is hard; it's been 15 years since I've had to say goodbye to a loved one.
Comment by Lisa French on September 1, 2009 at 12:38pm
I'm also sorry to hear of your loss, my grandmother also died recently. She was a very dedicated Christian, and the church service is exactly what she wanted and anything else wouldn't have felt right. In the UK we don't often get people offering prayers, instead I was told that she was watching down on us. In the end all anyone can do, regardless of our beliefs, is to celebrate that person's life and keep them in our memories.
Comment by deepthought42 on August 31, 2009 at 8:37pm
True. Thank you. I don't think it's completely hit me as real yet, but I am glad that we are doing what he wished. That makes me feel good.
Comment by Anne Halligan on August 31, 2009 at 8:24pm
Deepthought42, sorry to hear about your grandfather, my condolences. It is always hard to lose people we love, especially when we feel duty bound to honour something we, ourselves, disagree with. That said as a last act of love, that honour is meaningful to us. I've lost count of the catholic masses I have sat through , always uncomfortable, but somehow necessary. I hope you find some peace within yourself.

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