In just a few more months the holidays will be nigh upon us again ,beiginning with a holiday which I have always thought should be called "Thank an Aboriginal Inhabitant Day" but instead gets consigned to thanking the one who had (as far as I know)the least t o do with that group of pilgrims surviving the winter. But let me clarify one point-I do believe ingratitude.I simply find it easier to be thankful to someone who I know actually helped me through a tough spot.
I'm going to beg your indulgence here while I do a little screed-spewing (nothing bombastic or too assuming, mind you-I just felt theneed to say...
I am grateful
When my daughter survived a bacterial infection that almost cost her life I was grateful for meeting a doctor named Khan Eagle of the Childrens' Health Team;
As I watched my mom recover from a close experience with death due to complications from diabetes, I was grateful that my grandmother recognized the symptoms of the danger before anyone else and for getting my mom to the hospital in time;
In January of 2010 when a tornado put a 30-foot section of pine tree through our family home, I was grateful for the friends and family that helped us through that horrible misery-and to the contractors who put our house back right (yes they did it for pay, but after the disruption to our lives that that tornado did, I'm still grateful to them for doing their jobs and letting us get on with our lives).
As I watched my dad take his last breath on this good Earth, another statistic in the war on cancer, I was grateful to the many doctors and nurses and family members and hospice workers who helped him throughout that long journey-in the end he slipeed away painlessly with his family by his side in his own bedroom-there have been many kings who would have envied such a peaceful departure.
I am grateful that I have food on my table and a roof over my head that is owned outright and despite our state's governor (Rick Scott) I still have a job-at least for now-and a little money saved just in case that scenario changes. That might not sound like a whole lot but it is more than alot of folks in this economy have right now. I should be glad-and I am.
It doesn't take belief in a sky-ghost hovering over our heads, playing tiddly-winks with our fates and occasionally throwing us a much needed-bone for we as humans to be grateful. All we have to do is take a quick inventory of the things we have and the folks who helped us to get there (some of them not necessarily humans-I am grateful to our cats Lucy and Riley and our yellow lab, Honeysuckle just for being there--what would my life be like without them--I don't even want to think about that, but I have loved and lost pets in the past and I miss them all and am thankful to them for the memories I have of all the comfort and happiness which they have brought).
When my mom was in intensive care and I couldn't stay with her at the hospital, I slept on the couch by the phone with our orange tabbies Mouser, Milo, Tigger and Nadia and Selena, our gentle Manx. How do you measure that kind of comfort? You can't! And how do you say 'thank you' to someone whose most nuanced expression is to claw the wicker to let you know that they want you to pay them attention? You can't. You just have to hold on to memories even when it hurts and be grateful for every form of kindness that is shown to you in this life.
If there really is a god or goddess or gods and they have any way to read a blog, this much I ask of them: If you really can talk to people, please quit telling them to worship you-thats just causing folks down here to kill each other and for all your powers and immortality all you're doing is making our mortal lives miserable. What do you get out of doing that? Please stop! We can take care of ourselves and our own affairs better without your intervention, thank you. But if you can do other things and you can end a drought so that people can eat, or help a family who is facing disaster or an animal in need of finding it's way home, please do. Show that you can at least do one worthwhile thing with your existence and stoop from high Olympus or wherever to help someone in need. If you can do that, and you see fit to do so, god or not, I'll be grateful.