Ok, I am sorry if this is stupid blog post, but when I have been to parenting groups in the past, or gone on the taxi and asked if I baptised my children, I say no, then every single time they call me a bad parent.

 

I want to know what i so bad about being a parent that wants her children to grow up and then make their own choices. I do tell my kids that I do not believe in god, I hate the church.  I tell my 8 year old that the bible is a good work of fiction and should not be followed like the laws of state and country.

 

But does that make me a bad parent?

 

My daughter went to church, because her friend told her "you can't be my friend if you don't go to church and believe in god." so i allowed her to go. then near christmas her friend came over with felicia crying, i asked what was wrong "my friend said there's not a santa" i asked her friend why she ruined christmas for my daughter "because we should celebrate jesus' birthday and give the church presents for jesus, and how does one man go around the world in one day delivering presents to everyone" "I said time zone differences, and reindeer, and christmas magic, how does god and jesus hear all of everyone's prayers?" she didnt have an answer all she said "he's god"

 

I hate that cop out.

But thats what I get. Felicia's friends father told me I am going to hell. The lady on the taxi told me that my daughter is going to purgatory if she dies at a young age because I chose not to baptize her.

 

Does this make me a bad parent?

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Comment by lady beekeeper~SC on September 20, 2011 at 11:52pm
I have a son who's 8 and a daughter who's 6. I tell them I don't believe in god when they ask, but I don't talk about it a lot. We live in a small town in the south so religion is all around them, most of my husbands family are very religious but I tell them I can't tell them to believe in a god or not..it's something they will have to figure out when they are old enough to do so. They sometimes go to church with their grand parents but not every week. If were at their house they sit quietly while grace is said over meals. If that makes me a bad parent then so be it. We've all got our scars from our parents. The most important thing to me is that I teach them to have their own thoughts and to have compassion for others. If I accomplish those 2 things then I will feel like I've been a good parent.
Comment by Kris King on September 20, 2011 at 6:13pm

I'd say absolutely not and quite the opposite ... telling your child straight up that you don't believe in god, and that the bible is a work of fiction makes you a good parent.  You're not forcing them to disbelieve as you do, and the bible is undeniably fictional - the descriptions it contains of actual historical events that it contains are either grossly inaccurate or so rare they're not worth mentioning.

Comment by HALEY SAID on September 20, 2011 at 11:48am
hell no it doesn't make you a bad parent! but get used to it, the idiot parents of other kids never seen to get less idiotic! keep up the good work
Comment by Katrina Kristiansen on September 20, 2011 at 7:41am

well my son is to young hes 3 but my daughter no longer believes, but I like your idea of getting christmas presents from other characters, thats just awesome, do you mind if I use that idea?

 

and yes i read the bible, koran(had it read to me by my muslim friend) and was in a foster family that was jehovah wittness and saw the holes.

 

my step son i can not teach, its not my job, his father doesn't want him raised catholic but his mother doesn't let my fiancee do anything or have say in anything. so we are filing to get custody. 

Comment by Chris Crowder on September 20, 2011 at 1:24am
A little of topic, but did you really tell your son that the bible is a good work of fiction, I'm not sure if you read the bible or not (I did), but to me it is full of one dimensional characters and the plot line has hole in big enough to drive a truck.  Just having some fun with you :)  I was planning on letting my little girl make her own choice on god when she was older, but when her friends told her in grade one that people , who don't belief in god go to hell, I decided screw it and told her what I believe and why, and she chose not to belief in god.  I have brought her up believing in santa just because I always thought it was fun, my wife and I are now having her get xmas gifts from santa, doctor who, scooby doo, harry potter and a bunch of others as well, she loves it.
Comment by Katrina Kristiansen on September 18, 2011 at 5:39pm

There is something called parent alienation which is Parental alienation is a social dynamic, generally occurring due to divorce or separation, when a child expresses unjustified hatred or unreasonably strong dislike of one parent, making access by the rejected parent difficult or impossible. These feelings may be influenced by negative comments by the other parent and by the characteristics, such as lack of empathy and warmth, of the rejected parent. The term does not apply in cases of actual child abuse, when the child rejects the abusing parent to protect themselves. Parental alienation is controversial in legal and mental health professions, both generally and in specific situations.[1] Terms related to parental alienation include child alienation, pathological alignments, visitation refusal, pathological alienation, the toxic parent and parental alienation syndrome[2] though the last term is a specific formulation of a medical syndrome proposed by psychiatrist Richard Gardner that is not well accepted.[3]

 

and that sound about the same as daddy is going to hell because of....... i agree it should be against the law but its hard to prove(trust me we are working on that one our selves)

Comment by Mary Doino on September 18, 2011 at 5:25pm
These people are bad parents....They alienate their children. I know of Mothers who tell their children their Fathers are going to Hell, becasue they don't go to the same Church.  This should be considered a form of child abuse!
Comment by Markcincy on September 18, 2011 at 11:22am
Christmas has nothing to do with religion in reality. Christmas is selling stuff and spending money. Letting your child choose their own beliefs about religion is the best choice. Christians are huge on brainwashing children and do not let them make a choice. Katrina you are a good parent and you are not going to hell since there is no such place.

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