So, I am one of those unlucky souls who happens to have an ex-husband who not only hates me, and would probably KILL me if he thought he could get away with it, that I have a child with.  Things have gotten to the level where if I were his wife, I would be pissed about the amount of time he wasted stalking me on the internet and finding things to use against me to try and gain custody of our 13 year old son.  NO DOUBT, he is reading this post.  Hi, and enjoy.... that's the back story, now let me fill you in on it's relevance here.

My son's father has taken me to court, oh, at least 4 times, pulling out of his butt just about anything he could think of, and pretty much has his ass handed to him every time.  This last time was really no different.  One really interesting thing is that he had copies of ALL of my posts here on the Atheist Nexus, to try and use them in court to make me into a bad parent, because I was Atheist.  My son was old enough to be questioned in court this time, and my ex's attorney, with a stack of my A/N posts in hand, began to question my son about my apparent, "lack of religion" and that we "don't go to church, and does that bother him" or "does your mother believe in god?".  Now, I live in the Buy-Bull belt, and had often wondered how this would play out in court in a child custody situation, but I REFUSE to hide or apologize for my opinions when it comes to me being Atheist. It has always been my intention to set an example for my child, to stand behind what YOU believe is right, and to never be ashamed of who you are, even if you don't always agree with others.   I am GLAD to say, the the Judge shut that down about as fast as it got started, leaving the ex's lawyer standing there with all those posts that I have made here in the Nexus.  Now I guarantee you, that every post I have made, has been gone over by him and or his wife with a fine tooth comb.  No telling how many long hours have gone into studying, dissecting, and passing through their lower intestines every word I have written here, amongst the people who I share my Atheistic views with.  All of that hard work collecting evidence of my immoral Atheism...I just thought you might find it interesting, that even in the bible belt, a single mom can feel protected from religious jagaloons that would try to use being Atheist as grounds for being an unfit parent.  Maybe, just maybe, things aren't as bad as I had believed.  I do know this.  I will continue to exercise freedom of speech, and I really don't give a damn, who might read it.  It's not only my right to do so, but I feel, my responsibility.  I'm proud of my views.  They are what makes me, me...

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Comment by Kelly M on February 14, 2011 at 2:21pm
Wow!  Thanks for all this positive feedback!  It makes me feel not quite so all alone :)
Comment by Shannon on February 13, 2011 at 10:35pm
I hope this isn't costing you money.  Having to have a lawyer yourself could really eat you up.
Comment by Shannon on February 13, 2011 at 10:34pm

Good luck to you!  I'd be scared to death over that stuff.  People can be really irrational about religion- an irrationality in itself. 

 

Heck- Our freedom isn't free-  it's not even freedom anymore.

Comment by Prog Rock Girl on February 13, 2011 at 9:15pm
...and when someone continues to fight you in court, they're just wasting their own time and money!
Comment by Lindsey S. on February 13, 2011 at 8:12pm

It's nice to see some justice in the south. I wasn't sure if such a concept existed there. Congratulations :) Your ex must be running out of dirt to use against you by now (although it sounds like he never had any good dirt to begin with).

Comment by Karen Loethen on February 13, 2011 at 7:44pm

Kelly, YAY for that judge!

I am so glad you posted this!  It can get pretty depressing reading the mindless, nasty "Christians" bashing people who do not share their particular mythology story.

I'm happy to know that you did receive JUSTICE in this case!

Keep up the great parenting!

Comment by Kelly M on February 13, 2011 at 7:08pm
In fact, I felt like not only was my being atheist NOT ALLOWED to be an issue in this Judge's court, he reprimanded the opposing attorney for bringing it up in his court at all, ESPECIALLY in questioning my child.  You could tell that my son was very uneasy at discussing this issue.  The judge felt the whole line of questioning was not only highly inappropriate, especially in front of a child, but has NO PLACE in a court of law, EVEN when deciding child custody issues.  I can't tell you how I had sweated this.  I didn't for a moment consider not owning it though, because I am a PROUD non believer, and happen to think my questioning nature, is setting a good example for my child.  People don't ask enough questions these days if you ask me.  I think it is our responsibility to raise children who aren't afraid to ask questions!!  Children who in fact require REAL answers to their questions.  If we didn't have the rebels from the dark ages who asked questions despite the very real peril to their lives, if we didn't have people who pursued the answers to these questions then we would still live in the woods, eating game and bugs or dying from polio or measles.
Comment by Kelly M on February 12, 2011 at 11:16pm
Yeah, it's a sucky situation, but hey......I AM NO SHRINKING VIOLET.
Comment by Daniel on February 12, 2011 at 9:25pm
Thanks for sharing! Its easy to get depressed with all of the bad stories we hear about in the atheist blogosphere; people(myself included) don't talk about the good enough. Sorry your having  to deal with this shit with your ex.
Comment by FernWalker on February 12, 2011 at 9:25pm
Hold your head up high!  I too had a child with man a religious family, but luckily they left me and my son alone.  "Buy-Bull Belt"  Good one!

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