My friend is in the military and on deployment. They had a mandatory potluck to attend (this is the army - you are not volunteered, you are "voluntold" to do things) and after arriving, she started eating because she was hungry. This encouraged the other hungry soldiers to begin. Someone of higher rank then asked her incredulously, why she was eating. She said, "I'm hungry." He then said that they hadn't said grace and asked HER to lead the prayer. She said, "No." Now if you know the military, this is a very RISKY move - in the military, if you are of a higher rank, you are free to bully those of a lower rank at will. The master sarg. was incredulous once again and said, "WHAT?" She responded, truthfully, "I am not a believer and cannot in good conscious, say grace." Well you'd have thought she told them she ate flaming babies for breakfast. With bluster and furor he assigned someone else to say grace. People stayed away from her at the potluck and she has rethought the wisdom of her soon to expire military commitment, for many reasons, but this among them. She wrote me, "and in a country where we have a STATED separation of church and state, to think that in the MILITARY I was told to say grace! it's just impossible."