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Comment by Black Magick Woman on September 14, 2010 at 12:13pm

Unfortunately, women tend to use that emotional brain more than men, and as religion appeals more to emotion than anything else, it is the woman who tends to be trapped by it more so than the man. In minority groups, your religion is like your sacred key to community, without it, you're pretty much cast out.

Comment by Earther on September 14, 2010 at 12:00pm

I don't know if I am looking for a deeper meaning to this question I just wanted to know if I was correct that the ratio of confessed atheist men to women was correct. So far it sounds correct. The solution is not a simple one becuase I don't know what solution I want. The choices are the same, you live alone, find a religious or agnostic mate, or get lucky and find an atheist mate.

Comment by Black Magick Woman on September 14, 2010 at 8:12am

I've noted it from the time I actually found out what an atheist was, not to mention observed waaay more women in church than men from the get-go, so... When you think about the minorities within the atheist community, it can be a wee bit depressing, as the poster children for atheism seem to be: white and male.

Comment by Blade Of The Bunny on September 13, 2010 at 9:07pm

Interesting thoughts. I never thought about the ratio. Personally, I rarely meet anyone, male or female who will declare atheism but I live in MO, not exactly teeming with skeptics and non-theists. I meet apathetic atheists(males) but that's about it. I really think they're atheist by default just because they don't give a shit. As far as being interested to date, I guess I'm not all that available. My guess is that single female atheists are more likely to be independent and have active lives, so maybe they don't have much time to devote to the dating world. This is the case for myself.

Comment by Earther on September 13, 2010 at 8:24pm

Thanks for your comments ladies and gents, at least I feel that my experience is true and not becuause of my own lack of determination. Im not sure what an emo is but akward I get. Have you all seen the movie Date Night with Steve and Tina? Very funny.

Comment by Jezzy on September 13, 2010 at 7:50pm

"Except for those weird emo or socially akward girls. Whats up with that?"

Oh geesh. Is that me? Yeah, that's probably me.
But if you think about it, a girl who is an atheist probably doesn't learn to be as social. She thinks differently than the girls who "just don't think about that stuff", and she can't relate to other people. I think that's why a lot of people go back to religion. They're alone.

I think a lot of the difference between the sexes is still just conditioning and social role-playing. A lot of our stereotypes get tripped up when it comes down to it, but we ignore it and constantly look only for evidence that will prove our point. And we teach our children to be this or that depending on their sex. I know I have a lot of "guyish" qualities. The way that I sit, for one. I've noticed I don't speak like "typical" other girls either. I'm shy, but when I give a speech, I'm loud and I got spunk. (No, not that kind of spunk). I don't know why this is, but I'm guessing they're subconsciously emulating other girls... and I guess I've been emulating something else.

Comment by Luke Hanna on September 13, 2010 at 6:40pm

"My advice is to catch them while they are young and make sure they don't quote Bible verses" -John D
Unless of course they are for arguing against Christianity hahaha.

And while genetically men and women are more similar than we think, socially we are way different. It sucks but I guess women are just more emotional and spiritual than guys. I know at least 20 guys in my school I'm friends with that are atheists buy every girl I talk to says "I just don't think about that stuff" at best.
Except for those weird emo or socially akward girls. Whats up with that?

Comment by Sam K on September 13, 2010 at 6:05pm

My girlfriend is an atheist, but I doubt she would ever say so or write it on her facebook profile under "religion." She is among the many people (girls and guys) out there who are basically apathetic atheists. She just never talks about it, though has occasionally let sentences slip such as "If I believed in God,..."

I think the issue is one of patience and determination. In order to go to the trouble of going on a website (like Atheist Nexus: creating and validating an account, waiting for approval, etc.), one has to be generally "devoted" enough to the idea of atheism that he or she would seek it out. Most of us are here to be a part of a community that doesn't exactly exist in the real world. We have no church and no temple, so we find each other randomly in life, or on the internet.

But, I think that the determination to put yourself into the "category" of atheist, at least enough to go online and chat to others about it is pretty rare. Still, the internet is a huge place, and I have encountered plenty of other atheists online. Also, I have seen that many of the "dating websites," such as OKCupid and match.com do have plenty of listings for available atheist people (but once again, as with most sites, the ratio of men to women is pretty high.)

Comment by Logan Grado on September 13, 2010 at 1:22pm

It definitely sucks to try to find a female atheist. And its weird to try to date a religious person because you never want to broach the subject because you both end up getting upset with the other person . . .

Comment by Jezzy on September 13, 2010 at 12:27am

It makes me sad, but yes, it seems to be almost consistently true. I think, odd though it might be, it's more acceptable for guys to wander from religion a little. The pressure on girls is strong, and we're kind of taught to be emotional and spiritual and whatever such bullshit.

I, personally, know a striking amount of atheist girls considering the area I live in. When I say "striking", I mean... hmm. I guess... four. All taken. Two are married, two are in relationships. Which makes me the only single one, now that I think of it, and I'm not particularly looking.

It's gotta be tough. It's tough for me to be an atheist in this religious area, even though I'm young and independent-- and shameful though it is, since I'm female, my chances may be better than for a male in finding a non-religious mate should the need strike me. So to be male, atheist, and looking... not really fair.

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