Hey guys! This is my first blog post EVER! so I thought I'd ask a question that's been bothering me....On my facebook wall I love to post videos from youtube that show the simple-mindedness of theist. I have a friend that is a theist and we're real good friend...We don't debate about religion or politics but we both know where each other stand on the matter. This friend of mine recently made an account on facebook and I quickly added him to my friends list. After awhile of not hearing from him, I received a message:

Hey Joe,
Listen man.... I understand that we all have the right to have our own thoughts and opinions. I hold no ill feelings towards the
way you feel about life and the things around you. I do however take
offense to the way you have portrayed all christians (i.e. me). I am a
christian Joe and the way you have your feelings out there, those things
you have said are hateful. I know that you may not agree with my views,
or other views of christians, but there is no reason to be hateful. We
are not perfect, there is no one in this world that is, but to be
hateful towards anyone that is different to you, is wrong. I have never
said that anything hateful towards you or anything that you feel is
wrong. Is how you view me? I thought we were friends? How can you be
friends with something that you hate so much. It seems that you find
pleasure in exposing christian downfalls. If all you are looking for is
the bad, then all you will find is bad. I am taken back by your
desregard to my feelings on christianity. Jen and I love you and your
family and have never had any negative things to say about you. These
are people that you are judging. The people don't always represent GOD.
You are judging people actions, not God's will or works. We live a
beautiful world created by God, but filled with people. These people do
not always do the right thing. Being Christian or not, there is a
difference between right and wrong. Look at your children, they are the
greatest joy to you, I know, I have seen your love for them. That is
what you should focus all of your energy too. Not trying to find fault
with Christianity. Look towards your family and deal with your lives,
don't try and paint a negative picture about Christians, there are
people that do that on their own. You may not agree with the views, but
don't get caught up in the hate. There is no joy in hate, there is no
peace in hate. I am sure that you don't think that way of my family and
I, but what you have said has hurt us. Whether that bothers you or not I
don't know..... I mean no disrespect, but I am going to remove you from
my facebook page. I don't want to see the type of things that you have
been posting. When you post is shows up on mine. I am not trying to tell
you what you can and can't do, I just don't want to be included if you
are going to put things like that out there.



What do you guys think? I dont feel that I was in the wrong but being a good friend, I did apologize for the posts. He has added me back to his friends list since then and I haven't talk to him yet.... I did some thinking and I don't feel that I was in the wrong and that if he doesn't want to see my post regarding such matters...then he shouldn't read them. I'm not sure where to go from here... what do you think?

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Comment by Joseph M Westerwelle on August 18, 2010 at 4:07pm
thanks to all of you for your feedback!
Comment by Louis on August 17, 2010 at 3:31am
I'm not sure how much help this reply is going to be, but I don't maintain a facebook page specifically because of this.

Facebook is too much face, not enough book. I know that most of the people browsing aren't going to take the time to ask me to clarify things, they're not going to engage in deep introspective discussion, they're not on facebook to learn anything; they're there to participate in the new pseudo-stalking that most of us have invited.

People are going to see who you are on facebook. That's inevitable. That's unavoidable... mostly because that's the point of facebook. If they don't like who you are, then that's their problem isn't it. It's a shame that your friend doesn't like who you are, that's too bad but at this point what are you supposed to do?

Take it down? Deface yourself for someone else?

Tell him to deal with it? Risk your friendship?

How would he feel if you told him his Christian posts were offensive to you? What would you expect him to do?

There are no good solutions here.
Comment by Melissa Wells on August 16, 2010 at 9:32pm
I hid a friends FB feed because he kept posting ridiculous religious material and I was simply sick of looking at it. I am sure your friend feels the same way and to be honest your personal FB page is most likely not the best forum for anti or pro religious postings. If you want you can get a seperate page for this or perhaps start a FB group.
Comment by Glen Rosenberg on August 16, 2010 at 8:00pm
Historically Christians were not apologetic when they were burning women, burning heretics, inciting pogroms, stifling science, knowledge and inquiry; demonizing gays, women and mentally ill persons. etc. Encourage your friend to learn more about Christianity-straighten his moral compass. Make him realize that Christianity was not so long ago at a place equivalent to Islam in much of the middle east today. Christianity has lost some of its power and therefore its ability to persecute. When he is a follower of a sick ideology he is in a small way propogating the ability of the church to carry on its mission. In other words atheists have to be heard or else civilization will not advance. If that causes some bad feelings between friends that is a price you have to pay.
Comment by Claire Condon on August 16, 2010 at 6:53pm
Hopefully others will have good advice for what you should or should not post, as that's a hairy issue,but it's worth pointing out that FB allows you to customize wall posts so that specified people can't see them. It's under the padlock icon.

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