So a few weeks ago my ten year old daughter stayed at a friends on a Saturday night. Before the sleepover her friends mom mentioned that her daughter had to be at church at 8 am and could my daughter go with her. I told her that would be up to my daughter. She decided to join her friend, and I asked her to kindly refrain from making any comments that could be construed as rude about what others chose to believe in. Well, a few days later my daughter gets a phone call . . . from an adult from the church she went to with her friend. I was really miffed, but thought, she's a smart girl, I've raised her well and she can handle this. I didn't eavesdrop, although I was tempted, and I didn't let my anger(yes, I was more than miffed) show through the phone. I didn't even ask her about the phone call after wards, although I'm pretty sure I didn't hide my feelings as well as I wanted to. She never said anything about it, so I figured the subject was dead for the time being.
Well, three days later this one resurrected like the story of the Christian's Jesus.
I was in the garage looking through old photos with the Stunt Toddler today and my daughter comes out on the phone, I assume it's my mom or dad, and keep doing what I'm doing. Then after a few minutes, she says "Mrs. ____ wants to know I can go to church with them."
Grrrrr . . . really? I don't want to have to deal with this, I am non confrontational, and very respectful of other people's choices, plus, I live in the freaking bible belt.
"We'll talk about it later" I say.
Okay . . . Now what? I have no problem with her staying friends with this girl, so long as they are keeping their religion to themselves. I am pretty upset that a mom that I have known for a while would call and ask my daughter, instead of me, but then again she may have no clue what I believe and how I feel about the subject. I can tell my daughter is angry with me, as she's been in her room for an hour(since the phone call), and I don't want to do anything that will push her further from me now or in the future. I'd like to trust her judgment, but I have to admit, I think she's too young, and way too impressionable. I do not feel comfortable with her going to church on a regular basis at all. I just need to figure out how to talk to her about it, and how to tactfully talk to her friends mom about it also.