Oh how I used to buy in to that! I surely did. That is how I was raised. My mother drilled it in my head.
"Sorry you had a benign tumor in your knee that nearly took your entire knee out and you had to have a bone graph done on your hip and you could no longer play field hockey. God has a plan for you and put this obstacle in your life for a reason". (I love my mom just not her thinking)
"Sorry your husband cheated on you. God has a plan. He put him in your life to teach you a lesson"
I'm sorry. What lesson was that again? Surely I could have learned a lesson on my own? Surely such a loving "God" would not put something so horrible in my life just to teach me a lesson. What did I ever do to "Him"? I didn't ask for "Him" to create me (sarcastic people because I surely don't believe he did because I don't believe in god period)
So I was talking with a good friend of mine who has been having serious relationship trouble. Having gone through some myself I offered help and my views. He said, "I believe God put these girls in my life for a reason. he has a higher purpose than I could understand"
I rolled my eyes and tried to be nice. I said, "Take responsibility for your own actions and thinking. You are attracted to these bad girls for a reason. God didn't put them in your life for any purpose. If you want to view it that way your excuse will be that it is showing you what you shouldn't want. Um, you should figure that out on your own and think about that before jumping in. It is a lesson I had to learn on my own."
I am so sick of people not taking responsibility for their actions. No, I did not ask for my husband to beat me and to cheat on me but I surely put myself in a position where I chose the wrong guy. I was blinded and thought "This is what god wants" and didn't see through the mask that my husband put on. I am big on taking responsibility for your own actions and thinking. If you think taking drugs is a good idea then that is on you. Don't blame or give credit to some myth for your life. Take control of it and stop waiting.
Another conversation we had was how my friend was waiting for God to answer and show him the next chapter in his life. People like this drive me nuts! You are just a waiting duck. You are doing nothing, accomplishing nothing and waiting for absolutely NOTHING! Why can't people take the first step and realize life isn't easy? There are speed bumps and walls to climb but eventually you will get there. Why give praise to someone who obviously had nothing to do with it?
Sorry, just venting here. It drives me crazy. I may not be super intelligent in wording. I am blunt and say what is on my mind.