I quick thought on keeping your opinions to yourself. I'm switching locations at work starting Monday (it happens a lot). Before I left yesterday, a co-worker I have become friends with came into my office and shut the door. EVERYONE knows I'm an atheist (I'm as "out" as I can be). During my time knowing her, she has asked me more questions about the "A" word than anyone I've ever met. I now understand why. She was raised Catholic and has been a "believer" her entire life. Ten years ago, she gave birth to twins...a boy and a girl. I didn't know she had twins. I had only met her son. I never met her daughter because she died when she was just three weeks old. For ten years this very kind person has cried every night, worried that her child would be in "limbo" instead of in heaven (she didn't get the memo that the Catholic Church "changed their mind" on this some time ago...her family and fellow church members frequently tell her they are "praying" her baby makes it out of limbo...ugh!). For the past year we've had many talks about what I do and don't believe. Mostly, she just asked questions and listened to me ramble. I assumed she didn't say much because I have a big mouth...but it was more than that. I had given her a few books to read also (Hitchens' "God is not Great" and more recently Penn's book). I took a few "friendly" jabs at her religion, but never at her as a person. She came into my office yesterday to tell me about her daughter. She also told me that she no longer cries at night worrying about "limbo" and that she now considers herself an atheist (want to guess who was crying then? HINT...not her). I share this not because I "converted" her and want to gloat. I share it because through kind and honest conversation, one person I know and have come to care about feels a little less pain in her life. It's also why I don't "keep it to myself".