Comment by Sentient Biped on June 30, 2011 at 9:30pm

Those people are wrong.  The best thing that you can be is yourself.  The fact that you are an atheist means you accept reality, while your mom is delusional, at least when it comes to religion.  It's too bad the class is called "Social Deviance" - it should be called "Social Diversity" or something.  Your sister is probably a hypocrite, unless she has never had sex outside marriage.  So are your classmates.

Comment by Joseph P on June 30, 2011 at 9:40pm

Did she seriously say 'reputation'?  This isn't a small town of 1,000 people, back in the 1950's.

Comment by Jacklyn Marianne Land on June 30, 2011 at 11:20pm

I agree with you all. Well, my sister married her first and only sexual partner.

Comment by Jacklyn Marianne Land on July 1, 2011 at 12:54pm

Thank you. I agree that I am fortunate that my mom didn't let their religion get in the way of still being my mother. Yeah, I know I can't trust my mom very much. She has shown me that many times. Well, I am just fortunate to have the emotional support of my partner. Who always supports me in any of my decisions and has for maybe three plus years. He of course was my first sexual partner but has continually encouraged me to explore my sexuality with whomever I choose. I worried a bit about my reputation at first, but realized the absurdity of double standards of the mostly religious society. My more feminist also nonbeliever friends with whom I related well, told me that in their relationships they decided that as long as they didn't feel like their encounters were more empty than not, they felt good about themselves. I have taken that advice to hear. So, I don't believe in one night stands or meaningless sex. I believe in sex among friends only. My partner is not just my partner, but my best friend. He became my best friend before he became my partner. We became each others' best friend before we became each others' partners.

Comment by Jacklyn Marianne Land on July 1, 2011 at 12:55pm

Oops, to heart, not hear, hehe!

Comment by World Walker on December 6, 2011 at 6:00pm

I think your mom and your sister might not be mature enough to handle your details.  I know I'd never discuss my details with my relatives because I expect the same result.  

Keep in mind we live in a world with a lot of repression.  Maybe being totally open in public is a bad idea.  But there's hope because I know lots of people exploring various forms of sexual "deviance" and I think they are all really cool people.  As it becomes more common, the world will slowly gain some maturity on the subject. 

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