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what you will do if your fiancee seems to b so religious?

in my side i'm always an atheist.

and i never thaught about my girlfriends opinion about it.

by born i'm a hindu.

my girlfriend is christian(presbyterian)

she never asked me to believe in god and but she asked me why i dont believe in god!!

i explained all my reasons.

we all know religion is like drug. and she is addicted like all poor fellow.

so i need your suggestion what to do with her addiction ?

let her love jesus?

or try to convince her to not to believe in such unreal thing?

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Comment by Bicky on December 28, 2010 at 7:48am: hey John
me thik hu (i'm fine)
ami valo ase(in bengali)
mur val (asssamese)
go ahead 2 ur language tour!!!

Comment by Bicky on December 28, 2010 at 7:39am: last night i discussed with her1

u know either answering my question see asked me why i propsed her with the knowledge of her religion?

now i decided not to ask her about it.

i told her about me n my beliefs.

and as well as rob bewared me about pur future kids, i dont yet even dreamt abt it.

but i thing i wont force them to to become atheist or christian.

me and my wife will wait untill their social birth and they will decide what they want to be!!!

is this kind of problem happening with any of you also?

i need the results?

Comment by Glen Rosenberg on December 22, 2010 at 5:48pm: Inevitably the conflict will arise. If neither of you find the other intrusive you can agree to disagree. If a battle ensues you will win provided you are smarter than a tree stump and more educated than a marsupial. If she wants to keep you she may feign doubt or possibly deconvert.

Comment by John Camilli on December 22, 2010 at 12:35pm: Namasate. It is nice to meet you. Ap kayse hai? (I am trying to learn Hindi and Bengali)

To believe in a religion means you make life choices and moral choices based on your faith. It is fine if she is a christian, but that means your reasons will conflict sometimes, so you must be honest when she uses her faith as her reasoning and you disagree. This is not different from any other idealogy though. There will always be conflict between two people's reasons. No two people can have the same exact idealogy, so we should not shy away from this only where it is obvious. We should be understanding of each other's differences, but also not allow others to do us harm. Hold to your own beliefs, as you must, but allow her to do the same.

Comment by Rob van Senten on December 22, 2010 at 6:43am: If you love her, you should let her be her own person. If she wants to discuss, then be open about and tell what you think, don't try to persuade her to your side, most likely you would not appreciate it vice versa. However, if you are going to have kids, please be aware that kids are the biggest problem (potentially) in any relationship where the parents do not share the same worldview.