Two months ago I met a girl. We get along really really well. We went on a date and talked, it seemed like, all night. When we got to our respective homes we called each other and kept talking. Throughout the week we talk to each other and meet up for drinks, but sex has never been a part of it. I think we both want to see this relationship start slow and build into something beautiful. I have never met a woman who isn't turned off by my confidence (I can get a little cocky, okay, a lot). Most women I have dated either dump me for being Atheist or for being too over-confident. I admit I have a lot of work to do in that department, but I also believe that changing a bad habit like that takes a long time. Anyway, I asked her whether she minded that I sounded so cocky all the time and she told me she loved the fact that I was confident. I have never met a girl that has ever said that, never.
There is one problem, though.
She is Christian and would like to see me change my belief (or non-belief, for that matter). I told her I would be happy to go to church with her and sing and so forth, but I would not accept communion or be asked to join the choir. She said she would like the father to at least go to church so the kids don't question it. I told her I could do that. She said OK, but I know she is a little broken up. This is the first girl I have met who I'm not attracted to her just because she is pretty, but she is smart, and has the same sense of humor as me. The bartender even asked me if she was my wife with the way we were responding to each other. It has been a great couple of months and I honestly have never been happier.
My question is?
Is there anyone out there who is currently hiding the fact that they are an atheist just to please their spouse? If so, how difficult is it? I mean I really like this girl and I am used to church as I have been going since I was 8. Is she being petty asking me to do this? It has been a great couple of months, but I am not sure whether this is the right move. It has been so hard to find women who are atheist. I really don't want to be alone all my life, but I'm not sure how hard it is to keep it hidden from someone you love.