Marriage

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Comment by Earther on December 5, 2010 at 8:18pm

Marriage by law reduces your fears, pain, skepticisms in a relationship? Marriage by law makes marriages last longer and strengthens the bond? I could trade rings and vowels such as not cheating and sharing our wealth in a non-marriage relationship. I am trying to bust the myth that marriage creates the glue. I am trying to bust the myth because it is the religious society who created the laws and social stigma of relationships.

Comment by Erin Banks on December 5, 2010 at 7:57pm

I'm not arguing against that, but that is not the way our society is structured currently, hence why it would be beneficial to be married. And yes, there are pros and cons to the legal binding. I am speaking for myself alone in that I would feel better knowing that I have a bit of padding. I know how I can be in relationships and how the people I have been in relationships with have been; there is a tendency to run a little hot at times.

Comment by Earther on December 5, 2010 at 7:47pm

Erin, that seems like a positive. Just think if they made religion a legal bond and you must get a divorce from the church in the court of law if you decide you did not belong to it any longer. I know that is a stretch but my point is civil rights to all people who become involved in a relationship. The protection should be to the individuals health and property no matter how you are in a relationship. Property can be divided the same as is today. The people look for what is yours and what is theirs justly, terms of the relationship can be discussed in years and decisions made. Married couples who divorce do this, so can non-married couples do this.

Comment by Erin Banks on December 5, 2010 at 7:20pm

Emotionally I don't think there is any difference between being married or not, but no legal actions would be necessary to dissolve the relationship between a non-married couple.

Comment by Earther on December 5, 2010 at 6:02pm

While I don't necessarily agree with that stance, you're taking what she's saying out of context....

Ask yourself why married couples have, if so, more rights than non-married couples. Do individuals have rights to make financial contracts? Can individuals create a legal will to care for others after death?

Comment by Earther on December 5, 2010 at 5:55pm

Erin, if you are in a relationship for ten years and not married and then you decide to end it, how is that different than those who are married for ten years and end it?

Comment by Erin Banks on December 5, 2010 at 3:58pm

I really don't think Dyann was saying that unmarried people should have no legal rights, but instead they she doesn't think they should have the same legal rights granted to the married. While I don't necessarily agree with that stance, you're taking what she's saying out of context.

I personally like that marriage at least gives people a moments pause before ending things. Not to say that I don't think people should end a relationship if it really is not going to work, but a divorce is more involved than just, "I'm moving out. I'll pick up my TV on Thursday."

Comment by Earther on December 4, 2010 at 9:45am

Dyann, I think financial reasons are the top reasons, aside from personal mental health, for the success of cohabitation. I know that may sound cold but with out a growing economic growth in a relationship there will be enough hardship that breaks the bond of a relationship. Do couples who have nothing still make it in a relationship? Yes, but... the "nothing" really is not nothing. If a couple is surviving it is because of human growth which ultimately turns into financial gain. Please rethink your last statement - No, I don't think unmaried people( no matter what orientation) should have legal rights. Everyone has legal rights in America that is a law abiding citizen - Everyone. Two strangers could write up a legal contract in a business relationship to build, and both are responsible to pay its debts.

Comment by Earther on December 3, 2010 at 4:10pm

Glen, "just do it"? If I just do it I feel somewhat like I am adding to the theist party problem, if that makes any sense. I know what you mean though, if you want to get married then just do it.

Aaron and Dyann, don't you think the legal benifits should extend to non married partners? I am concerned that we are over looking some civil rights here.

Adrianne, your problem is not marriage, really it is being with the wrong person. Marriage may also be a problem though in the sense of laws that make it financially and socially difficult to part from a marriage (relationship) that doesn't forfill your needs of a life partner.

Dyann, I understand getting a loan is important but after the recent American recession/depression I am not sure if getting a loan is all it is made up to be.

Comment by Adrianne on December 3, 2010 at 3:27am

Here in lies the problem, he doesn't practice any christian ways, but he believes in a god that I don't and therefore I get sick and tired of hearing "Your gonna burn in hell for all eternity"................. what the hell are you talkin about? My ears burned up a long time ago.....................

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