This was an amazing discussion and an opportunity to talk about an area that I don't get to talk about much - the trans community and problems and issues related to shame that creates such a hostile environment for those with a non-binary view of themselves and the world. This discussion may not sound relevant to you, but the issues are not unique to trans people. They pervade our culture and are a direct result of religious influence. My…Continue
Here is my response to a writer who says her home is a "porn free zone."
Unfortunately, this writer is grossly misinformed about all things sexual. Humans are built for sex, love sex and visual and written porn have been a part of sex as long as history has been recorded. Romance novels are as much porn as any movie. Women in general respond to written or spoken porn men more to visual porn. That is the way our brains are wired. I would imagine that…
I am off to Australia on Monday. If you have any Aussie friends in Sydney, Brisbane, Tasmania or Melbourne, let them know I'll be in their area sometime in Feb. Now I have to get back to studying. I am trying to learn enough Aussie to be able to say "hi" and "bye" and "gooday mate" properly. I have been told that the Queenslanders are a unique breed. I'll just have to see for myself.
Life on the Swingset podcast, it's not often I get to talk to four fun and experienced people about sex. Cooper S Beckett, Ginger, Sher-b-cats, and Dylan were a total blast. This is a no-holds-barred discussion. This is almost unlike any podcast I have been on recently. Such great conversation!! If you are not listening to this podcast regularly, you are missing some great ideas and education.…Continue
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My friend and colleague, Marty Klein and I have been on a campaign to eliminate the notion of sexual addiction. I am happy to report that he has written an excellent article debunking the whole notion and was interviewed about the article today by Dan Savage. Lets stop using this non-scientific term and challenge religionists when they use…Continue
Had a fun interview with The Imaginary Friends podcast out of Australia. Podcast is up. I'll be visiting Jake (of the podcast) when I go to Brisbane, Australia after speaking in Sydney next month.
To all of the Friends of Recovering from Religion. We have a big announcement. RR has a new Executive Director - Sarah Morehead. Please read this press release:
Added by Darrel Ray on January 8, 2013 at 3:17pm — No Comments
I was quoted in the New York Times today and the Secular Therapy Project was cited in an article on humanists and the recent assault rifle murders in Connecticut, "Where are the Humanists?" Please help us let people know about this important service. If you are in need of a secular…Continue
Dear RR leaders and members: Dr. Steven Uhl has given us an end of the year challenge. He has promised to match every dollar donated to RR through Dec. 31. If you are considering possible charities for this season, please consider RR. You will double your money and help RR get off to a strong start in 2013. Please go to Recovering from Religion to donate before Dec. 31!
Added by Darrel Ray on December 24, 2012 at 11:47am — No Comments
Here is an excellent post by James Morrison, a world religions teacher on sex and religion. He looks at some of the crazy ideas that religionists hold, especially about masturbation. I wonder if he will actually talk about the views of the various religions on masturbation, including the ancient Egyptian god Autm, who masturbated his two children into existence?…Continue
Added by Darrel Ray on December 18, 2012 at 10:00am — No Comments
Please take a look at Teens Without God, Ask an Atheist. Don't let the "Teens" part turn you off. Many of the questions I answer on this site are relevant to all ages like this one: "Can an atheist still enjoy Christmas?" or "How do I deal with my religious in-laws?" The website is a product of the American Humanist Association. I have answered dozens of questions from people all over the…Continue
Added by Darrel Ray on December 17, 2012 at 10:11pm — No Comments
The God Virus is now in audio format. Here are a couple of comments from listeners on Audible.com.
I enjoyed the giving of actual virus names and then showing how multiple religions act in that manner. I was able to learn about both…Continue
My talk at Skepticon 5, The Shame of it All, or Why Do We Act Like Christians. A 30 min. talk on Youtube
I am delighted to report that David Niose, President of the American Humanist Association and author of Nonbeliever Nation, has just published an article on The Secular Therapist project on the Psychology Today website.
Added by Darrel Ray on November 12, 2012 at 2:39pm — No Comments
This came in last week. It shows why we are so committed to the Secular Therapist Project.
"Dr. Ray, I just wanted thank you for creating the Secular Therapy Project. About 12-16 months ago, I began looking for a therapist, and I wanted to find someone secular and/or nontheistic, but it was pretty much impossible to find a therapist or psychologist that…
Dr. Dawkins' new documentary, Sex, Death and the Meaning of Life is now out and available on YouTube. It features my research and material from my book Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality. As usual, for Dawkins, it is well done and thought provoking. Two of the three episodes are now out.…Continue
Read my post on Sexual Shame in our Politics at JT Eberhard's blog, based on my talk at the Texas Freethought Convention. Also, take a look at the new Richard Dawkins documentary, Sex, Death and the Meaning of Life on Youtube. The first episode deals with my research on guilt, sex and…Continue
Off to speak at the Humanist of Florida con tomorrow. It will be fun to see Shelley Segal again as well as Hemant Mehta and Jerry DeWitt among many others. Hope to see some of my FL friends there.
Till Death Do Us Part, Forced Celibacy in Religious Marriage.
Traditional wedding vows contain these ominous words, they also promise to be faithful. What the vows don't address is "what happens when one partner doesn't want sex any more?" 20 years ago the wife of a very religious friend of mine told him, I am finished with sex. They had four children and she had lost all interest in sex. She went on to tell him that, if she ever caught him having an affair, she would divorce him.…
If you are in the Salt Lake City area I hope to see you at the free Sextravaganza at the Univ. of Utah this Saturday. Also, my second interview with …Continue
Added by Darrel Ray on September 12, 2012 at 10:19am — No Comments