"Hi dr kellie, really nice to read your comment. There are so many social changes taking place right now, and things seem chaotic. Are you familiar with Chaos Theory? According to James Gleick, Chaos: The Making of a New Science,…"
"The bible is a collection of writings spanning - what? a thousand years? It contains the thoughts, laws, some history - much of which is probably legend / inaccurate / made up for local political purposes at the time and place where written.…"
"The bible has NEVER been about rights for women, and indeed, may be argued as a text utterly dedicated to privilege for men and the status of chattel or property for women. As regards its statements regarding women, rape, property and so on, I…"
"Hi Dr. Kellie, I hope I'm replying in the right place, lol. My cats don't get a rabies shot every year, it's every 3 I think, but after they go once, the county knows we have them (or the city, I'm not sure), and then we…"
Hey, I just noticed you are in College Station.
Just letting you know that we have a local atheist/freethinkers group. We meet on Sundays at Sweet Eugene's House of Java for good conversation with like minded people. You can look us up at: http://www.meetup.com/BCS-Atheist-Freethinkers/
or email us at email@example.com
Hey, I wonder why you posted your latest discussion in the Gay Atheists forum. It it an excellent topic and does not seem to be limited to gay interests. I can't comment on it without joining that group, which I would not otherwise do. To answer your question briefly, yes I have felt resentment.
I'm sorry, I never noticed your responses on my page. I didn't know they would appear there.
I currently live far from my parents and have for some time. This has given me the opportunity to explore my feelings and beliefs without the family pressure. That distance was vital for my own development although it wasn't necessarily a conscious decision initially.
I never spent much effort hiding my opinions but I didn't flaunt them either. It was only recently, about a year ago, that things finally came to a head and I had the long talk with them. During that time I felt a lot of the resentment building up of having been indoctrinated as a child in addition to the one-sidedness of their conversations with me. Actually, I might say that the pressure has increased since then in the form of books and videos they've been mailing me. Confessing all has changed me though. I take their books and videos in stride and I consider responding in kind but I realize I've said as much of my piece as they're capable of hearing so I just let it roll over me like a wave. It doesn't affect me too much now.
My current impression, based on my experience, is that it's far more beneficial for your mental health to have the talk and get it over with. Burying that stress inside takes its toll and it isn't fair that the people who are creating that stress don't share it or, perhaps, even know it's there.
I will add that it may be easier to do in writing. My father posed a question to me over email so I took that opportunity to write a sizable response in an attempt to convey the entirety of my position all at once. I know he read the whole thing and I know that if I had tried to verbalize even a portion of it in person it probably wouldn't have worked.
I wish you lots of luck in dealing with this. It is tough for everyone I guess.
Does it bother me when they send me books? Sure it does. Giving someone a book acts on several levels. It says:
1. I want you to read this so if you care about me you will (even if I haven't read it).
2. I think you're wrong and I think this book will explain why (even if I haven't read it).
3. I am giving you what I consider to be a gift so you better not respond with hostility.
All of this is calculated to cause us the most guilt possible, which consequently leaves us in the most vulnerable position.
I have told them that I will be willing to read a book of their choice if they agree to read one of mine. I believe that's a fair compromise. It levels the playing field. It removes the guilt and pressure that may be present by placing equal responsibility on them. Or it stops the books from coming for a while, as the case may be.
I don't currently have any "top picks" for books to give my family. I haven't had any success with that yet but I am compiling a list of potential books in the discussion below. That should give you a starting point.
i've got no problem with everyone saying "merry christmas" on christmas day. however, they've turned it into an entire holiday season where it lasts a month or more. in those situations it should be perfectly acceptable to say "happy holidays" or call it a…
I posted the bulk of this on another thread, but wanted to add some context separately.
I finally confronted my faith and embraced the fact of my atheism late last August, 2012. Days after I revealed my "epiphany" to a few friends who knew me from another message board, my sister died from Lou Gehrig's Disease (which pissed her off because she hated catching a disease from someone she never f---ed).
THAT was my sister, understand? She was a beautiful, life-loving, potty-mouthed…
OK. I am venting. My mother died two weeks ago. She was a “god fearing christian.” Before her death she refused all medical treatment. She wanted to be left alone. She even refused to speak with my brother who is a methodist minister. He is a pip, let me tell you! I suspect she did not believe, but a woman born in her time could not and did not state her actual beliefs. This is the opening salvo to all christians; FUCK YOU! I had so many people come and tell…