"A wedding doesn't make a marriage. I endured my wedding just to make my parents and his parents happy. Although I'm a woman, I did nothing to prepare for the wedding except show up for it, and late at that! It was meaningless to me. What…"

"I think in your father's case, being a minister, he really is too close to the situation to be clear-headed about it. If he officiates, he's going to add something religious. He'd pretty much have to, regardless that it is your…"

"Its true its your wedding. I assume you love you father or you wouldn't be so worried about this. Tell him how this tears at your heart (if it does). Tell him you love him and that you want him to do this. Make it clear to him why you asked him…"

"Sensitivity here is the key as many have said. I know I would spin some elaborate yarn that "if he is conducting the service, then he will not trully absorb the whole experience of your special day". Give him an option during the wedding…"

"Go with the flow, negotiate and throw a real deal WE'RE MARRIED party on your own grounds post-elder right o' passage err whatever it's called. say wird; many photos too! You'll owe nobody but yourselves if it's love man!"

"Marriage has existed since ancient culture, as far back as Sumeria. It's hardly a new concept or one belonging to a particular faith. Yet, Christianity acts as though it is the creator and owns the patents on it. There are benefits to marriage…"

"I'm not anti-marriage or anything. I do think that people who get married without first having sex are more likely than not to become divorced earlier than on average, though I have no evidence to support that opinion. Getting married because…"