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"From the wife: I want to start by saing that my husband is a very smart man; however, he is just not very educated. He wasn't one for school and doesn't read other than if he needs some cheats for a video game. He is part Mexican and…"

"I'm sure you've gotten information from plenty of people since you posted. I'd like to know how it goes for you and your wife. I'm in a situation where I can talk about it for two sentences and then my wife says 'I…"

"What I've noticed is that when a believer has relatives or anyone that they care about that doesn't believe, their ideas of hell and what it takes to get into heaven change. I have realtives that now think there is no hell, or realtives…"

"I recently came out to my wife (I've posted this on another thread), and thanks in great part to The Nerd's suggestion on here, I brought up the idea of trying a UU church. We scoped out a few sites on the web and found one we both thought…"

"The only thing i can say there, (apart from good luck), is lead by example, ("he is such a nice guy, god will let him in to heaven even if he is an atheist"), and gently, slowly, patiently, at a snails pace, lead her reasoning to the same…"

"This reminds me of the last gf I had. She was very active in church. Went Sundays and Wednesdays with her mom. Went to church sponsored activities, worked in the church nursery. I started dating her without knowing any of this, but within a few…"

"Yeah, I hope you keep the good times going too."

"I empathize with you, arm3d, and wish you all the best of luck. I am actually very close to coming out as an atheist to my wife, and I don't think she will like it. We've been married for a couple of years. Although she said she was…"

"Good luck bro."

"If I were in your position and it was my wife, I'd tell her that "Perhaps one day god will reveal himself to me." Now, don't think of this as a cop-out, it does several things. First it acknowledges and respects her belief.…"

"Sometimes by just being yourself the person will start to wonder why your life hasn't crumbled yet."

"Have you been attending church together?"

"This must be a stressful situation for you, too. I know that, were it not for the support of my husband, my whole "coming out atheist" would have been a lot harder. I can't imagine not being able to share that with the one person who…"

"I'm in a similar boat, I married a christian. At the time I referred to myself as agnostic and whilst it was always a sticky point we got past it. Last year I came out and told her that atheist was actually a more accurate term to describe me.…"

"The only tip I can give you is that if you are talking with her and she starts to get defensive, back off and let it drop. Don't relent, just don't press the issue. It's virtually impossible to change someones mind when they are on…"

"Yeesh. Good luck. You're gonna need it."