My husband and I are in shock. We got a call from his grown and father of four son last week. They had some news for us.... It's hard to even explain this... They have decided that they have a…Continue
"Oh, wow, that is just... hoo boy...
Listen, I don't want to seem insensitive, but the adults in this situation aren't acting like it. Running away, really? You need to tell them that they can go gallivanting around the country playing…"
"Oh, yeah. I would not be surprised to know they'd given the church a bunch of money! My husband and I both work full time (and more) so taking the kids is not an option for us. And the youngest is only two months old!
"Just read this to my husband (his mother is the controlling party that converted her husband and 3 of the 4 kids to Born Again-ism). His immediate reply was, "They probably went into debt giving all their money to the church." UGH I…"
"Sharon, I know what you mean, so much easier said than done. I got into a scramble this winter with a decision my granddaughter and her partner made and I followed all the principles to the T. However, I came across to them as judging and blaming.…"
"Sharon, I think you are doing the right things! I'm sure it will be challenging, but worth it for the kids' sake. Maybe you could get your daughter-in-law in a conversation or something so your husband could just…"
"Thank you all for the thoughtful and rational responses. I think you have essentially confirmed what we have already thought and planned. We are also thinking my husband needs to get his son alone, and discuss this privately - his…"
"Sorry they are flaking out. If you are able to, offer to help with grandkids if necessary to keep them taken care of. Tell them you think this move is a terrible idea. Ask questions like John said. Make them watch the Peter Fonda…"
" Dennis, I agree with your assessments. The young parents will learn for themselves. In the meantime, the grandparents need to create a safe, stable, secure foundation for themselves so they can feel free of guilt or anger. Finding…"
"I can't press "Like", however I do understand the feeling you must be having. The only things I can say are the basic principles upon which to draw.
Before anything else, find a way to express your fears, anger, disappointment,…"
"The decision maker in the the family whether it's your son or his wife is not thinking rationally but it could be both. When you meet don't be afraid to ask hard questions especially about the welfare of the children i.e. school and…"
"Wow! I'm sorry this is happening. I would make sure no matter how vehemently you disagree with this, that you don't alienate them, just for the sake of your husband getting to continue to be a grandpa to his grandkids. …"
"My guess is that they first got into a lot of debt, then wanted to walk away from it. Asking the bank how long on the mortgage before they would be evicted is a clue here. The next thing is that god is not going to let them starve, and they saw it…"
My husband and I are in shock. We got a call from his grown and father of four son last week. They had some news for us.... It's hard to even explain this... They have decided that they have a calling from god. They are going to walk away from their mortgage, just stop paying it, and quit work and live in an RV and travel around the country spreading gods word.Seriously. This is like a bad nightmare.They have been Calvary Chapel born-again since before they were married, but had recently…See More
"Thanks for all the friendly welcome messages. I found your group as I was searching for advice on grandparents and different religious views. We seem to be the reverse of most advice I found, which was how atheist parents can…"
Thanks for all the friendly welcome messages. I found your group as I was searching for advice on grandparents and different religious views. We seem to be the reverse of most advice I found, which was how atheist parents can address religious grandparents. I am the step-grandma of three youngsters ages 5, 3, and 3mos. The parents are evangelical christians, and the five-year old has started to ask me questions like "do I love Jesus?" I'm trying to figure out how to respect the parents without compromising my own values. I guess I need to have a discussion with them. Sigh.
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