"When all these trusted women were telling you horror stories did any of them say anything like "Your body, emotional state, and age might not be the same as when we lost our virginity, so all these things might not necessarily happen…"
"Genesis 38 (King James Version):
"And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
And the thing…"
Hello Rob, and welcome to this friendly nexus---the freethinkers big wide world of rational good sense. Yes, you have moved away from christianity but you have ended by finding yourself on the side of truth, the side which is right---truth about science and truth about the real origins of the world.