"Welcome! I note appreciatively that "no established rules .. just act with honesty, openness and consideration" can be successful. I am a better theorist than practitioner, but I never found a rule more effective than good faith and…"
"Ha. I thought "sweet patootie" was your term of endearment for that lucky person. Would I be correct to think of your "pet names" as things best said in private? (hmm. I suppose that's a judgment call. If anyone ever called…"
"1. Don't talk. Never talk about your relationship. Don't talk about boundaries, expectations, comfort zones. Never talk about the relationship unless something goes wrong. Don't ever talk about how much it means to you.
"I agree about the increased difficulties when larger numbers of people are involved, in nearly any capacity. The pairwise communications channels alone, without regard to the degrees of intimacy they are supposed to convey, vastly increase in number…"
"One challenge is mathematical, familiar to communications theorists: As the number of people involved in any network grows, the total number of pairwise connections abundantly exponentiates -- people are involved with others in ways besides…"
"After many failed relationships with monogamous people (who said they could accept me being polyamorous... really they could), I decided never again. Good to hear it worked for you.
I deny that self-profession as "poly" correlates to…"
""I don't think you have to be involved with more than one person"
Good. (Like others, I can sometimes become a little self-involved. Autopoly).
I had a successful poly relationship with a monogamous person. Once.
".."so I reckoned just leaving my profile up as a beacon might eventually get someone to write."
The beacon is a good idea; I trust you'll get worthwhile response.
We're not only a tiny minority of a tiny minority, we're…"
"I'm nearly 55 years old, new to this Group, and new to Atheist Nexus, too.
My first ethical non-monogamy was 35 years ago, although I spent a lot of years as zero-gamous. My atheism is a product of more recent decades.
Much as I resist…"