@<a href="#comment-116607" rel="nofollow">Elyse</a>: I never said I was still hot. After having 3 pregnancies then going through depression after losing my son to SIDS I now weigh 230 lbs. I was trying to get the point across that even though the cheerleader made fun of people for being fat she ended up becoming what she made fun of. I have too though but looking back I wish I would have seen I was pretty back then as I feel I am pretty now though I wear a size 20 jeans. I also never said that she was stupid or lazy. I am actually friends with her on facebook now as I am with a couple other people who picked on me in high school. Goes to show even though people can be hateful in high school once they have a few years under their belt in the real world they may realize what they did to others and that causing pain to another person isnt worth it in the end.
@<a href="#comment-116607" rel="nofollow">Elyse</a>: Bullies seem to think it's a zero-sum game, that they can only be happy if someone else is not. But of course this isn't true. Raven should be happy for what she is, not for what other people aren't. The ring-leader of the kids who bullied me in middle school ODed in high school. On the other hand, another kid I really liked and who never bullied me at all also ODed shortly after graduation. Both events are tragic.
Also, it is a logical fallacy that fate somehow equalizes things in the end. The only thing that can do that is us, human beings, and we usually aren't very good at it.
Several of the comments here remind me of the <a href="http://www.hulu.com/watch/4151/saturday-night-live-church-chat" rel="nofollow">Church Lady's Superiority Dance</a>. (Sorry about the Hulu, it was hard to find good clips.) In view of the above, I absolutely deny deriving any pleasure at all from the plight of her guests on this segment. (Is there a smiley for "snicker snicker"?)
BTW, Elyse, I'm hanging this off your comment, but it is really directed at the people who you are arguing against.
I guess my point is that regardless of how professionally successful, thin, and good-looking they become, or in what exotic locales they settle, ultimately it's irrelevant.
All the kids I went to high school with are probably pretty happy and successful, with beautiful families (according to the photos they post on Facebook - although a small handful of them are divorced), but the important thing to me is that I am deeply satisfied with the life I chose.
The ones who weren't very nice then are probably not very nice now, from hearsay and my limited observation, but most of the kids I went to school with are decent people. (And it's worth stating that the not-so-nice ones came from not-so-nice families, and so had their own stuff to contend with.)
No doubt there are rotten kids for whom bullying others in high school is just sharpening their teeth on the way to becoming a total sociopath, but most teenagers are just thoughtless little beasts who don't consider the impact their actions have on others who may be more emotionally fragile. The pressure to conform is enormous in adolescence and making fun of those who are different or exhibit any kind of insecurity is one (admittedly not very nice) way to relieve it.
@<a href="#comment-116605" rel="nofollow">MrOverall</a>: nothing anyone ever writes will ever appeal to everyone. if we tried to do so, we'd never be able to say anything meaningful. i wrote this letter with my teenage self in mind, knowing that i would have found comfort in the words, and assuming that at least a few others currently in such a situation would as well. based on the feedback here, that is indeed the case. maybe it's simplistic; maybe it's naive, but it has helped at least one person feel better about her situation, and in my estimation, that makes it worth writing.
@<a href="#comment-116586" rel="nofollow">RavenInTheHedge</a>:
<blockquote>The classmates who picked on me are another story. One ODed on heroin, another has been working at a gas station since graduation, and the head cheerleader now is very overweight.</blockquote>
Yeah. I know. Fat people are the worst. You really won against her. No way <i>she's</i> a happy or productive member of society. Fatty Mc Fatsalot. I bet she can't get a job because she doesn't fit through the double doors! Or the garage door! She had it all when she was hot and in high school. She thought she was all that and now she's stupid and lazy! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Good thing you're still hot. Now you can be anything you want. And point out how people who are fat are huge losers.