I got married four years ago today. Of course, I'm just realizing that at 8:12 pm so I suppose that's a sign of how long four years really is, and how little this date matters to me anymore. We got separated a few months later, so it wasn't by any stretch a long-term marriage. But still, it's weird to think I haven't had a single vacation day since then. I'm leaving town (and my kid, with family)…