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How flirty is too flirty for a married person?

If your spouse is kind, sweet person but a hopeless flirt, and it really bothers you - what do you do?

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    Garaidh Mac an tSaoir

    That's an interesting question.  Honestly, I'm of the opinion that flirting is a socially acceptable way of putting out feelers.  I'm married and in a monogamous relationship.  But, I don't think that people are monogamous by nature, so marriage was a real compromise for me - one with which I will never be entirely satisfied or comfortable.  I didn't marry until I was 46 years old and enjoyed the single life for a long time.  But, life is about compromises.  So, if you accept that flirting is putting out feelers, it sounds to me that you have to decide where the line is drawn.  Is flirting acceptable, so long as your spouse doesn't take it any further? I sincerely hope that you find your way through this one.

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      Saint Fillan

      I suppose this also depends on how you define flirting.
      Where are your boundries?

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        Lonna Duzan

        NEW TO THE GROUP AND JUST BROWSING, BUT I HAVE TO PUT IN MY TWO CENTS...TRANSITIONING GRADUALLY, AND WITHOUT INTENT, INTO A POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIP WITH MY HUSBAND, I BELIEVE THAT THIS IS A QUESTION OF "HOW MANY RULES DOES YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAVE - AND IS SOMEBODY BEING "OWNED" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, OR DO YOU HAVE FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF, WITHOUT FEAR OF YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER HITTING THE ROAD?"