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Why Do We Live in a World Petrified of Women Who Love Sex?

Why Do We Live in a World That's Petrified of Women Who Love Sex?

A great article by Noah Brand!

...assumptions about male libido, as godawful as they are, pale in comparison to the incredibly creepy cultural ideas about female libido.

What the hell happened between the 15th century and the 21st? Okay, admittedly, several things happened. But the one we’re concerned with is that women’s libidos went from being considered as powerful or more so than men’s to being essentially erased.Pre-Renaissance examples of horny ladies abound,...

This change in attitudes appears to have been religiously motivated, and based on the idea that women are more spiritual and sacred than men, meaning “less horny.” 

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    Dogly

    James, I think you have it backwards.  I think that women needed men to help them, in some small way, to raise the children.  Only by giving up the freedom to sleep with whomever we wish could we get men to help us take care their children.  We had to prove, by tolerating ever more stringent social deprivations, that we never had the opportunity to sleep with another man.

    The daily news stories remind us how like our cousins the chimps we are.  When a new dominant male takes control of a troop, he kills the babies of his vanquished predecessor.  The statistics tell us how frequently the mother's "new boyfriend" kills her baby while she's at work. 

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      Dogly

      Brother Eduardo, I have a question.  If 3 or 4, or maybe 6 or 7 women told you that women hate being called whores, would you stop calling us whores?

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      Dogly

      @ The Nerd, "An underground hit for years in sexually experimental circles, Dossie Easton’s and Janet W. Hardy’s The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures makes the case that we should all enjoy an occasional threesome, foursome, and moresome with friends and strangers. “We believe it’s OK to have sex with anybody you love,” Easton and Hardy write, “and we believe in loving everybody.”  

      I looked up this book you mentioned.  It sounds very interesting.  Please notice that its authors are two women.  Women have tried to take back some of the words used to insult us, just as blacks have tried to take back the hated word "nigger".  In my opinion, neither effort has been successful.  Certain words have been used so long as weapons that their power to hurt remains.  These words still make their victims shrink and cringe.  I have never met a black man, woman, or child, who does not hate the word, "nigger".      I have never met a woman who wants to be called a slut, whore, or cunt.  I have never met Brother Eduardo's girlfriend, but I doubt that she would be flattered if some stranger on the street called her a whore.

      I agree with brother Eduardo's attitude about sex.  I would never begrudge him his adventures in Istanbul.  I think prostitution should be legal.  (I do think pimps should be hung) Free love, expensive sex, multiple lovers, and any other pleasure that is shared with willing adults is great.  I'm not quibbling about sexual mores here.  I'm only talking about words.

      My entire point here is to convince my reader that words hold the power to give acceptance or rejection, praise or condemnation.  I always hope that when I discover that something I have said has caused hurt feelings, I will say something else in the future.  Words can be thrown like knives or like flowers.  The knives are the ones that make people cry.

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