One mother's story:
Probably lots of women feel like this, but they feel compelled to sugarcoat it.
Being that I have a partner who wanted children (he finally told me it's my decision if I want to get fixed) I am glad I didn't give in. I probably would have felt this way.
Women should trust their feelings about this - if they don't desire children - then don't reproduce.
Great article. Have the utmost respect for her. She didnt feel much for her children, but cared for them much better than many mothers i know nowadays.
Adrienne Rich wrote semi-honestly about the anger and hostility of mothers to their children, in her book "Of Woman Born". She avoided describing the more violent and disturbing aspects.
She was a very gifted woman, and it's not surprising that she would resent the mindless aspect of being a mother.
This is difficult for me, because my mother was one of those unwilling mothers.
She got married when she was about 20, to get away from her family. But she felt trapped with my father, who considered his family to be his personal "cult", with him as cult leader of course.
And she identified me, her first-born, with her entrapment into motherhood. She was extremely vicious in her anger at me.