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Secular Sexuality

(NSFW) A no-taboo approach to sexual education and health.

Website: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_sexuality
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Sex for fun and non-procreation!

In this world, we can't get away from religion. We've been exposed to false information regarding contraception failure rates and experienced the STD scare tactics. Some of us may even have gone through abstinence-only sex education!

Here in Secular Sexuality we will discuss:

-sexual health in light of peer-reviewed science
-safe for work guides on safe(r) sex (or links)
-questions that would shock the religious

This discussion forum is moderated. Unsophisticared trolls and judging other people will not be tolerated. If you would like to see a topic addressed, or have a question, add it to the comment wall, or message an admin.

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Cliteracy

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BDSM

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Sex Tips

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Ezekiel 23:20 – Bible Porn?

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What do you yell in bed?

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Beautiful Cervix

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Non-monogamy

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FREEOK 2013 - Emily Boyer: "Secular Facts on Sexual Acts"

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gender reveal parties

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Men have sex and women make love. Or do they?

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Clits 101

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FS: My virginity mistake

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On sexual objectification and subjectivication

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Does sex keep you younger?

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Music during sex

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How flirty is too flirty for a married person?

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Sexual Harassment and Assault at Hooters

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In Soviet Russia Orgasm has You

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Comment by Tom Sarbeck on April 1, 2014 at 12:18pm

Size does matter?

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on March 31, 2014 at 6:35pm

Comment by Tom Sarbeck on March 20, 2014 at 6:28pm

I like the pizza metaphor, but do I have to stop saying pizza's number one purpose is to burn peoples' mouths?

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 20, 2014 at 4:31pm

Good TED talk.  Something I never thought about before.  Pizza metaphor does sound much better.

Comment by Grinning Cat on March 20, 2014 at 3:04pm

Al Vernacchio's TED talk about a positive, inclusive, communicative, delicious metaphor for sexuality is a very worthwhile eight minutes!

In the US sex is often compared to "first base", "scoring", etc., a competition with strict rules, only for the skilled and fit, with winners and losers. We can do better! "Baseball, yer out!" Let's talk about... pizza.

"Sex needs a new metaphor. Here's one..." (video)

(Thanks to Joan Denoo for sharing that in "LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends".)

A good complementary article elaborating on these concepts: "To Slide or to Slice? Finding a positive sexual metaphor" by Carly Dreyfus.

Comment by Grinning Cat on February 22, 2014 at 11:09pm

A great podcast!

An interesting note about the variations possible among cultures, about 31 minutes into the show, in response to a question about how often men and women think about sex:

"In the Mangaian culture in the South Pacific, women are voracious. And the rule of that particular culture, that's been there for hundreds of years, long before Western contact came to that particular island, the rule was, a girl could have as many boyfriends as she wants, there's hardly any taboos around sexuality there, even for young kids to have sex anytime they want, but ... the rule was, the boy was expected to give the girl at least three orgasms for every one orgasm that he has."

Sounds sex-positive to me!

Dr. Ray next mentioned the Na culture in China [on the border with Tibet], whose traditional "visiting marriage" system had no husbands as we know them. Siblings stay together through adulthood, men visit their lovers at night, and the uncles are the primary male figures in the children's lives.

(But see also: The Na of Southwest China: Debunking the Myths. While "visiting marriage", in which fathers do have specific roles from time to time, is the preferred type of partnership, others exist as well. Significantly, "notions of exclusivity are not entrenched, and the Na language has no word for 'jealousy'.")

Comment by Darrel Ray on January 29, 2014 at 9:23pm

I was on The Thinking Atheist last night. We really got into things like how to talk to your children about sex and the bogus notion of sex or porn addiction. If you or someone you know, believes in sex addiction, listen here. It is only a figment of the Christian imagination and their sex crazed guilt.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thethinkingatheist/2014/01/29/religion...

Comment by Tom Sarbeck on December 18, 2013 at 2:26am

Yes, a neat condom ad.

When I was that age, the only places I could buy condoms were from coin-operated dispensers in the men's rooms of seedy service stations. Signs posted near the machines warned that the condoms were for disease-prevention only.

Around 1980, a store named Condomania opened in SF. In the Castro of course. What a treat it was to see condoms on display.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on December 16, 2013 at 7:57pm

A neat condom ad. To watch it yo0u must turn safety mode off on YouTube.

Comment by Darrel Ray on December 13, 2013 at 7:52pm

Dear fellow Secular Sexuals, As you know I have written on sexuality and coined the term "Secular Sexual." I recently learned of a new documentary in the making I think we can all get behind. I have donated to this fund raiser. I hope you will consider supporting it as well. I think the film maker is asking some critical questions.
http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/why-knot-breaking-the-silence-on-...

 

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