Comment by Tom Sarbeck on August 31, 2011 at 5:49pm

Not hostile. I like the idea of people enjoying mind-blowing orgasms in whatever consensual, safe, and non-criminal ways they can. In my post-retirement work for more than a year as a sex educator, I spoke by phone with people about ways to have them. I also dealt with the issue of rough sex, which some grown men feared was a result of their masturbating too often when they were young.

In my work, which I often described as a wonderful remedy for the consequences in my life of twelve years in Catholic schools, when the subject was the effect on orgasms of not cutting or cutting penile flesh, I did not change the subject to orgasms resulting from stimulating other parts of the body. I especially did not tell callers that what they'd said did not hold. Your bad.

I answered the way I did because doing so took only moments, and because A/N made it possible.

BTW, the training for the work required several times the number of classroom hours in human sexuality that medical students get. Local colleges gave under-graduate credit for the training and work; and working registered nurses could get continuing ed credits for it.

For more info, visit www.sfsi.org.

 

Comment by TNT666 on August 31, 2011 at 6:18pm

Well, from a promiscuous female perspective... I've noticed two things: firstly-having watched lots of Caucasian porn (generally cut) and African-American porn (generally intact) I do notice a difference of "roughness" in the act of copulation and in the general handling of the woman, secondly, IME I have noticed a similar trend. Is it life imitating porn? I don't think so. I had only ever known cut men in my life until my 30s, generational thing, but being with intact men has changed a lot about my sex life.

 

It's too late to effectively change the conditions for cut men, but we can insure that men in the future need not suffer that. It's unfortunate San Franciscans did not win the right to ban circumcision, that would have been a huge step forward away from religion meddling with health. But that was just the first try, an ice breaker.

Comment by TNT666 on September 12, 2011 at 2:09am

10 sexiest male atheists... over half I agree with... which is pretty good in my book :)

 

Comment by Dallas the Phallus on September 13, 2011 at 3:24pm

Comment by Joseph P on October 23, 2011 at 9:04am

That would be Juan Pablo (for what little that means).  It would seem that he or someone else finally deleted the discussion, possibly the account.  Pity.  You should have seen Egan jump to his defense.  :-D

Comment by TNT666 on October 23, 2011 at 12:32pm

One aspect that constantly annoys me with the hysteria over pedophilia is that the media and many do-gooder parents confound all age groups under the arbitrary "statutory rape" category dictated by modern Christian sensitivities. Our modern society, in the context of our prolonged life under medical maintenance, has created a shift in the expectations of youths' behaviours. As a society we infantilise teenagers and 'tweens'. We don't even need to look back more than a century to find that sexual activity, historically, always began as soon as puberty was started, and explorations happened before puberty. Physically, from the onset of hormonal changes, the bodies of humans are ready for sexual activity. BUT in a society which infantilises youth, these youth are not mentally prepared for this aspect of their lives. This is the abstinence approach to sexuality and it is unhealthy. Of course for a youth who is mentally unprepared for sexual activity, any sex (not just from adults) will be unhealthy and traumatising. Before our uber-protective, 'moms against this and that' society, kids were prepared for sexual activity, through rituals, even before puberty, in order to be ready, to be mentally primed, for that sexual activity.

 

The mental priming is everything. It's not just a matter of age... a 20 y/o virgin who's not mentally prepared for sexual activity will also be traumatised by sexual activity.

 

As in many areas of debate, the bottom line is knowledge. Lack of knowledge always leads down a faulty path, knowledge and preparedness is the absolute best protection of one's sanity in life. So please, parents:

-stop infantilising your offspring past infancy, there comes a time when they're no longer infants

-stop letting your mind be warped by stupid low-brow TV shows such as To Catch a Predator

Both behaviours do a disservice to your tweens and teens.

 

Of course, as Bethany stated, a 10 y/o is generally pre-pubescent, but on a bell curve, there is a slight change that this 10y/o is verging on readiness for sexual activity, especially given that the age of puberty has been dropping since several decades. I've known several guys in my life who were being sexually exploratory at that age, so I hope you've readied him :)

 

As a society we need to do away with this hysteria and look at sexuality as a normal occurrence in animal life, from a quite early age. I don't expect this kind of maturity from a religious person, but I do from atheists.

Comment by TNT666 on October 23, 2011 at 12:41pm

why, would you become a violent and hysterical parent?

Comment by Susan Stanko on October 23, 2011 at 12:42pm

I'd like to know the answer to that as well.

Comment by TNT666 on October 23, 2011 at 12:43pm

I'm a female who had my first sexual explorations with others from age 15, and copulation only at 17, why? because I was educated on sexual matters since age 7, through scientific readings. I simply hope your son has the same access to information.

Comment by Joseph P on October 23, 2011 at 12:55pm

15 years old doesn't make it pedophilia, either.  Illegal in most states, if your partner was over 18, but not pedophilia.  That term refers specifically to sex with prepubescents.

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