Secular Sexuality

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Sex for fun and non-procreation!

In this world, we can't get away from religion. We've been exposed to false information regarding contraception failure rates and experienced the STD scare tactics. Some of us may even have gone through abstinence-only sex education!

Here in Secular Sexuality we will discuss:

-sexual health in light of peer-reviewed science
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-questions that would shock the religious

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Comment by Richard Goscicki on April 27, 2009 at 11:35am
Dallas, I haven’t read The Invention of Heterosexuality but I agree with the basic premise that dichotomous thinking is faulty and stupid: good and evil, light and dark, straight and gay.

The ancient Romans and Greeks definitely made no distinction about the latter: the Romans even had a term for a young Greek boy imported for sexual delights of Patrician oldsters. I believe it was Claudius that said, “He’s more timid than a newly arrived catamite.”

The Spartan homoioi (the equals) were known to encourage brotherly love in order to maximize the group bond. They were about the best fighters the world ever knew.

Mark Anthony had brothels all over Rome figuring “anything goes.” I can imagine what that was like.

The fact is that it’s not a question of black and white, but a continuum. Freud was the first to bring out the “polymorphous perversity” of the id. If people would realize that it’s all a shade of gray, they would get along a lot better.
Comment by A Former Member on April 26, 2009 at 9:47pm
Has anyone ever read this book, or known anyone who has? It is on my list to read, but my list is pretty long, and I"m curious what people think of it.

The Invention of Heterosexuality

From Publishers Weekly

Katz (Gay American History) argues that heterosexuality is a social construct rather than a natural, unambiguous given. He notes that the terms heterosexual and homosexual were coined in 1868 by German sex-law reformer Karl Maria Kertbeny and did not gain wide currency until the early 20th century. Katz contends that heterosexuality as a universal, presumed, normative ideal was invented by men, such as Kertbeny, Sigmund Freud and German psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing. Prior to the late 19th century, he maintains, the social universe was not polarized into "hetero" and "homo." The examples he cites in support of his thesis-ancient Greece, the new England colonies (1607-1740) and the U.S. between 1820 and 1850-do not substantiate Katz's claims. Nevertheless, this often provocative work challenges rigid notions of gender identity, building on the ideas of French historian Michel Foucault and on feminist critiques of heterosexuality by Betty Friedan, Kate Millett, Adrienne Rich and others.

From Library Journal
Although we take for granted that heterosexuality is and has always been the sexual norm, historian Katz reexamines the constructions of sexual identity and postulates that heterosexuality has a history that has heretofore never been analyzed and that "such privileging of the norm accedes to its domination." Tracing the first appearance of the terms heterosexual and homosexual in 1868 in Germany, the author of Gay American History (LJ 12/15/76) analyzes the changes in usage in dictionaries, medical journals, and a wide variety of other published sources. Carefully building his argument using Richard von Krafft-Ebing's and Sigmund Freud's seminal theories in the creation of heterosexuality, he goes on to challenge such influential figures as Alfred Charles Kinsey, Betty Friedan, and Michel Foucault. This provocatively original research, recalling similar problematizations of race, gender, and other seemingly immutable, ahistorical constructs, is complemented by Gore Vidal's foreword and Lisa Duggan's afterword. For informed readers.
James E. Van Buskirk, San Francisco P.L.
Comment by Gecko, of Richie! on April 22, 2009 at 2:09pm
hey wait a minute I cant spell worht a dame!!
Comment by A Former Member on April 20, 2009 at 4:20pm
@Ariel: Oh, I see. Yes, I've come across those types before.
@Greg: I think they kick them off pretty quickly.
Comment by Ariel on April 20, 2009 at 3:41pm
A troll is usually a loser who spends his/her time finding forums to disrupt. In places like this it's usually someone who joins a group they disagree with just so they can scream about how evil/stupid/disgusting we are. They usually can't spell worth a damn.
Comment by A Former Member on April 13, 2009 at 9:45am
What's a troll? An older person seeking a younger person? You'd think I'd know that, but I'm always a little behind on jargon. I didn't know what a twink was.
Comment by Greg Pierce on April 13, 2009 at 9:33am
Had to join this one! I'm a little afraid of these trolls I heard about though! :-)
Comment by A Former Member on April 2, 2009 at 6:00pm
Comment by A Former Member on February 20, 2009 at 3:26pm
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Headlining NAKED LOVE are a series of brand new shorts from Canada exploring temptations and consequences, intimate dos and don'ts and what really goes on behind the scenes of an explicit webcam show. Also don't miss a new episode of CASSIDY LOVES MOBY starring musician Moby and a free-spirited plastic doll, and "Love at the Festival", a collection of videos showcasing some of the romantic films and themes on display at the 2009 Sundance Film Festival.

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Comment by jc morrison on January 29, 2009 at 1:06pm

a strong first installment. i am not sure if i completely agree with some of your analysis, but it was a fascinating read and i look forward to the next installment. for some reason, i can't seem to figure out how to subscribe to your blog page.

best wishes,

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