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Comment by TNT666 on December 11, 2011 at 4:53am

Being "too drunk to say no" is only relevant in the context of rape by strangers. The ad is a girl lying in a public bathroom. Both are uncommon contexts. It excels at shifting the blame to the 'evil stranger', rather than the priest, boyfriend, coach, father, etc.

Comment by Joseph P on December 11, 2011 at 4:41am

I guess I'm just not seeing that distinction in the ad.  Getting drunk and going home alone with anyone seems like a bad idea.  I didn't take "don't know very well" to mean complete stranger.

Comment by TNT666 on December 11, 2011 at 4:26am

The main problem with the ad is that it perpetrates the fallacious dogma that rape is generally something that happens between strangers. It does absolutely nothing to address the fact that a great majority of rapes have nothing to do with alcohol but with abusive males within women's inner circles.

Comment by tom sarbeck on December 10, 2011 at 2:51pm

A person who walks through a bad neighborhood at night counting $100 bills might qualify for a Darwin Award.

Comment by MaleficVTwin on December 9, 2011 at 10:38pm

I've always thought that it's a very fine line that must be walked like a tightrope when talking about certain behaviors that can make a girl more likely to be raped. It's incredibly frustrating too. The ad is 100% correct to point out that drinking heavily and leaving with strange men can increase your chance of being raped. Susan is right; she didn't deserve it, yet her lack of good judgement could certainly be considered a contributing factor.

I've found in past discussions on this topic that an analogy works well to illustrate the point:

If I were to walk through a bad neighborhood at night counting $100 bills, how much higher are my chances of being robbed than if I took the money straight home in my car and put it in my safe? The odds of course would go up exponentially. Does it mean that I deserved it? Of course not. Did my behavior contribute to it? Absolutely. People would tell me I was a dumbass to do that. Granted this is an extreme example, but it illustrates very well that a little bit of forethought and good judgement can prevent us from being the victim of a violent crime, sexual or not.

Comment by dr kellie on December 9, 2011 at 5:05pm

I must admit, the ad did irk me a little.

Comment by Susan Stanko on December 9, 2011 at 2:06pm

I guess, if you want to be technical, it is blaming the victim.  Doesn't make it any less true, however.  Because, I don't care how drunk you are, it doesn't mean she deserved it.

Comment by Joseph P on December 9, 2011 at 1:59pm
Eh, I don't see the problem. "There are a lot of assholes out there who will rape girls. Help keep your friends safe from them." I don't see the assignment of blame to the girls, in that ad.
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