I realize now that I am not *wrong* to have these "impure parts of me"

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Permalink Reply by William van Druten on August 7, 2010 at 6:22am

Bravo! It is shocking to hear of the bizarre training that you report. Sex is fun and feels good because it is set that way by evolution to keep our species thriving as you have learned. Better training for children has to do with safe, happy ways to enjoy our erotic impulses. Glad you are with us.

Bill

Permalink Reply by John on August 7, 2010 at 12:55pm

Religion and sexuality are complete polar opposites, as I have never heard of ANY religious belief that is at all accomadateable of what SHOULD BE "normal human sexual behavior". I would even argue that probably ALL SEXUAL DYSFUNCTIONAL BEHAVIOR can be traced to religious upbringing! The fact that you were involved in "12-Steppism" only adds insult to the injury. I hope that with the help of a secular therapist (if you think its needded!), and your own adult "explorations" that you can enjoy a "normal" sexual lifestyle!

Permalink Reply by Sean Murphy on August 7, 2010 at 6:35pm

Actually, I have heard of several. However, I have not heard of any monotheistic religion (Judaism, Islam, Christianity, Zoroastrianism, etc) that promotes what I would consider healthy sexuality. Could be a coincidence, or there might be a pattern there.

Permalink Reply by Prog Rock Girl on August 7, 2010 at 6:54pm

Of course it is not wrong. I am of the belief that you can do whatever the hell you want within your own mind. It doesn't matter how illegal or immoral or taboo it is--your brain is your own domain. And you can also do a hell of a lot of things in real life too, if they don't hurt anyone else!

Permalink Reply by William van Druten on August 7, 2010 at 6:58pm

I'll second and third what Prog Rock Girl said. She said it right and morally correctly. Be safe and enjoy.

Permalink Reply by Jen E. on August 9, 2010 at 6:30pm

thank you everyone.

I can't afford therapy and the only "low income" available to me here is christian-tainted counseling. Meaning more reinforcement of the above I described.

I am still recovering from "therapy".

lol

ty again,

Jencarlene

Permalink Reply by TNT666 on September 17, 2010 at 1:51pm

If more humans spent more time loving each other and having more sex, humanity would have less time to destroy the planet :)

Make love not war.

Permalink Reply by Brent Feeney on September 17, 2010 at 3:21pm

Truer words have not been spoken!!

Permalink Reply by Jen E. on September 17, 2010 at 3:09pm

ty everyone for your continued support of this posting.

Jencarlene

Permalink Reply by Brent Feeney on September 17, 2010 at 3:26pm

Keep on doing what you've been doing. I've always been of the mind-set that sex is good and healthy. It's those who hate sexuality that have it wrong, in my opinion. And I don't understand why - makes no sense to me.

Permalink Reply by Paula T. on October 15, 2010 at 5:00pm

All I can share is that you didn't develop your harmful beliefs about sex (or anything else) overnight and you won't get rid of them overnight. As others have said, give yourself time. Every day is a step away from the old garbage you were taught and a step closer to enjoying your thoughts and actions without guilt, sexual and non-sexual.

Within the last few months, I was able to (finally) admit to myself and others that I am an atheist. Since then I have been able to tell myself that whatever I am thinking is OK. Any fantasies I have are OK, even if they fall outside the realm of what is considered 'moral' by the catholic church. I still grapple with feelings of guilt, but tell myself there is nothing wrong with my thoughts. Keep fighting - the journey to freedom and away from thought oppression is well worth the effort!