I have been curious about the many elements of BDSM and Kink in general. Of course that puts me at odds with the Bible Belt Culture I'm currently imprisoned in. In addition I'm Bisexual, and have very liberal views on nudity. It is very difficult to discuss sex in general in this culture, but is nearly impossible with things like BDSM. I find a very disturbing lack of knowledge and understanding. So if anyone want's to discuss this like a mature adult I would be more than happy to do so.

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I'm not into the more extreme stuff or into the "scene", really.  I'm more of a facilitator.  Almost every girl I've ever dated has been at least some degree of submissive and masochist, so I've always gotten taken along for the ride.

Generally, that just involves an occasional trip down to the sex shop, every month or two, to check out new toys that might be fun to play around with, when we're in the mood.

It's just something you start into a little bit at a time.  Start with spanking, then go see what kind of paddles they sell at specialty stores, which will provide different sensations.

Likewise, you start with simply holding your partner down and dominating her (or him, since you're also inclined in that direction) bodily, and then you can go and see what sorts of low-friction, skin-friendly ropes are available, so your partner can be restrained while you go about attending to specific areas of her body.

My best advice is to not go diving into the deep end right away.  There are some extreme, out-there freaks at various BDSSM gatherings, who are into some very advanced stuff.  When you're a complete newbie, it can get a little crazy if you just go completely nuts, all at once.  I'd like to think that most experienced people will be gentle with the BDSSM virgins, but you can always get assholes with no self-restraint.

The only way to rid oneself of an obsession is to indulge it.

Porn can help, too.

You just need to keep in mind that porn tends to be a poor representative of what actual sex of any given sort tends to be like.  There's a tendency towards a magnification spiral, in those who cater to a particular kink, in the porn industry.

Driving the hour into Nashville is too far for dating?  There have to be plenty of kinky types, in a city that size, even in Tennessee.

Ah, yeah, that's an issue.

Well, turn if off and go outside, after 4 or 5 hours, then.  ^.^

It depends upon your sex drive, I guess.  Either way, though, it's a once in a while thing.  Usually, my imagination does the job just fine, on its own.

I mix it up a lot, even with my relatively low consumption levels.  Even within my specific scope of lesbian porn, there's a good deal of variety.

Well yeah, but when you're single and can't find a real partner ...

Make do, until you can get the real thing.

Condoms and partners who are tested and don't do random hookups.

... which involves the sort of time, money, and ability to travel which you've said you don't have.  Sucks, sometimes.  Meh.

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