Our kid, Vito, just made 4 - he's starting pre-k next week. I was just wondering if any of ya'll have kids, how old, how you treat "private" issues. We're not terribly private as far as knowledge goes. Obviously, some things are kept in the "bedroom", so to speak, but as far as real-world information goes, we're probably as liberal as they come. Vito calls his penis a johnson and his testicles, nuts. Right now, we're working on "time and a place" for handling his junk (with the explanation that it makes people uncomfortable and, of course, the sanitary issues). And he already knows Alice Cooper's great song "Only Women Bleed" because he's familiar with tampons. He saw, he asked, I conquered. He also knows that it's not alright to talk about it at school. I remember some of the awkward moments I had as a kid who wasn't aware of too much. What do ya'll think?

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From Recommendations for Sexuality Education for Early Adolescents:

"...57% (n= 17) believed that age 10 was appropriate, 27% (n= 8) recommended ages 8 to 9 years, and 10% (n= 3) believed that sexuality education outside of the home should begin at age 12. "

"Parents in this study started talking about topics such as menarche, sexual abuse, and sexual intercourse at ages of 2, 5, 6, 7, and 8."

"Discussing risks at age-appropriate levels, when the risks were more likely to be encountered, would make the teaching more relevant. For example, most participants believed that discussing birth control and condoms at age 10 was appropriate but would be more meaningful if repeated at an older age when intercourse was more likely to occur."

"Ongoing education would allow for opportunities to discuss more sophisticated topics and real-life situations such as cohabitation, unmarried parents with sexual partners, and homosexual couples. Participants from all three groups agreed that it was important to talk to young people about the risks associated with oral and anal intercourse and genital contact between persons of the same gender, but this information should be restricted until age 12 or older."

"Teaching sexual vocabulary, scientific and slang, was recommended. Youths should be taught about sexual awakening including wet dreams and aspects of sexual arousal such as what arousal feels like, how to handle such feelings, and how arousal is different from love. Adult participants identified that some youthful sexual activity occurred because youths believed sexual myths such as arousal equated to feelings of love and that being in love meant one should have intercourse..."

"Talking to youths in a face-to-face format was the overwhelmingly preferred methodology for delivery of sexuality education. Participants from all three groups recommended allowing youths to ask questions about sexuality without restrictions. They believed strongly that it was important for youths to be listened to, to have their questions answered, and for adults to respond nonjudgmentally and without anger."

"Early adolescents may not interpret a teenager's advice as being told what to do, and the information may appear more relevant coming from a speaker with 1st-hand, current teenage experience."
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From Adolescent Sexuality

Article Outline

Determinants of sexuality
Adolescent sexuality development
Consequences of adolescent sexuality
Sexual activity
Teen pregnancies and births
Sexually transmitted infections
Sexual minority youth
Sex education
References

"Sexually supportive cultures have been common among the peoples of Oceania. These cultures cultivate responsible sexuality; sex is seen as indispensable for human happiness, and sexuality is encouraged in the young. Customs and institutions supply sexual information and experience to young people of all ages at age-appropriate levels, and there is no sexually latent period in a child's life."
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From Preventing Sexual Risk Behaviors and Pregnancy Among Teenagers: Linking Research and Programs

"Programs need to understand that many youth lack the skills
to practice safer sex. A variety of behavioral skills are necessary for condom use, including communication, negotiation and refusal skills, and technical condom use skills. Programs must train clients in these skills and provide time and a comfortable place for them to practice. While the resource investment needed for such skills training may appear to be beyond the normal scope of adolescent health and family planning programs, ignoring this component undermines the value of safer-sex education and counseling."
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Pediatrics. 2008 Mar;121(3):e612-8.
Beyond the "big talk": the roles of breadth and repetition in parent-adolescent communication about sexual topics.
Martino SC, Elliott MN, Corona R, Kanouse DE, Schuster MA.

Rand, 4570 Fifth Ave, Suite 600, Pittsburgh, PA 15213, USA. martino@rand.org

OBJECTIVE: Most studies of parent-adolescent communication about sexuality focus on the frequency of communication without distinguishing between the breadth of topics covered and repetition. The goal of this study was to assess the independent influence of breadth and repetition of sexual discussion on adolescents' perceptions of their relationship and communication with their parents. METHODS: Data came from 312 adolescents who, along with their parents, were control participants in a randomized, controlled trial to evaluate a worksite-based intervention designed to improve parent-adolescent sexual communication. Adolescents completed surveys before the intervention (time 1) and at 1 week, 3 months, and 9 months after the intervention (times 2, 3, and 4, respectively). At each survey, adolescents reported whether they had discussed each of 22 sex-related topics with their parent. Breadth was defined as the number of topics discussed for the first time between times 1 and 4, and repetition was defined as the number of previously discussed topics repeated during that period. RESULTS: Adolescents whose sexual communication with their parents involved more repetition felt closer to their parents, felt more able to communicate with their parents in general and about sex specifically, and perceived that discussions with their parents about sex occurred with greater openness than did adolescents whose sexual communication with their parents included less repetition. Breadth of communication was associated only with the perceived ease of parent-adolescent sexual communication: adolescents who discussed more new topics with their parents between times 1 and 4 felt that their sexual discussions occurred with greater openness than did adolescents who discussed fewer topics. CONCLUSIONS: Clinicians may want to advise parents about the value of discussing sexual topics repeatedly with their children, because this may provide parents an opportunity to reinforce and build on what they have taught their children and provide children the opportunity to ask clarifying questions as they attempt to put their parents' sexual education into practice.
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I have a 6 y.o. boy. He knew that he had a "penis" when he was old enough to talk. I never went into slang terms. Since kindergarten last year, though, he's learned all sorts of creative terms for his genitalia.

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