Recovering from Religion


Recovering from Religion

Unless you were raised by atheist parents, you probably had some recovering to do when you left religion. The purpose of RR is to provide a landing place for people when they jump from religion. With local support groups throughout the US, Canada, UK, and Australia, and real-time resources accessible to everyone, RR is where to turn when faith has lost its luster.

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In what way are you still recovering from being brought up religious?

Started by Steph S.. Last reply by James M. Martin Jun 14. 14 Replies

I was brought up in a fundamentalist family.Anyone still dealing with any issues from religion?Do you fear the result of coming out Atheist to your family?Any thoughts are welcome.Continue

Catholic Family / Atheist Wedding - HELP

Started by Megan. Last reply by Tom Sarbeck May 31. 4 Replies

Any one else out there still recovering from Catholic guilt??I come from an extremely Catholic family/upbringing. In 6 days I will be the first person in my entire extended family not to marry a Catholic in a Catholic Church.My biggest source of…Continue

Anyone still deal with anything like this?

Started by Starland Victor Seay. Last reply by Matt Skaggs Aug 26, 2013. 27 Replies

One thing I have noticed is a tendency to "doubt" my new path in life. I still want to reach for the Bible sometimes. I still hesitate somewhat when someone mentions Pascal's "Wager"...LOL! Even though I know that science teaches this and that no…Continue

"Thief in the Night"

Started by cbenhamcox. Last reply by Luara Aug 18, 2013. 2 Replies

Last night I was reading Seth Andrew's book, Deconverted, and I almost fell out of my chair when he discussed being forced to watch the end times film from the 1970's call "A Thief in the Night."  He described some of the scenes, and I had a…Continue

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Comment by James M. Martin on February 21, 2013 at 7:04pm

kara, I recall the first time I went to dinner at some friends who are like family to me in that I saw a lot of the wife's mother before she died of cancer.  When they found out I was and am an atheist, they still did the holding hands to say grace thingie.  I took the hands of those next to me but kept sneaking glances at the couple's youngest child, a smart girl of 11.  She was smiling at me.  I had to wonder, Is it possible she sees through all this dogmatic nonsense?

Comment by Patricia on February 21, 2013 at 2:11pm

I have to think of people like that as willfully ignorant, & they like it that way as they have no interest in learning anything else. Being our ''parent'' makes no difference......they still like to ostracize people in some ways, sneaky or not.

Comment by kara on February 21, 2013 at 1:59pm

Thank you Idaho. I think I just needed to vent.

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 21, 2013 at 1:48pm

Kara, sorry to hear about your mother.

Comment by kara on February 21, 2013 at 1:42pm

That's exactly what it was and how she had previously always seen it. It was a cute family tradition that even though I'm an adult I still did because it had become part of the fabric of family xmas. What hurt was while i thought being atheist only meant not taking part in religion apparently to her it meant closely held holiday quirks where no longer open to me any more either.

Comment by Patricia on February 21, 2013 at 1:29pm

I had lousy ''parents of the year'', but the hurts never really go away. I can't get rid of the hurt/anger either, so I've had to place it in the past & try to live for today. Thankfully I have a husband, great in-laws (now deceased), friends & neighbors to help keep me reasonably sane......I think. 

After more than 7 years of dead silence, I got a surprise birthday card 3 weeks ago with an apology & request for forgiveness from ''mother''. This came after ''father'' had died a few years ago, so he's out of the picture. I wrote her a note thanking her for the apology, but I said NOTHING about forgiveness....I will not give her that.....because I wouldn't mean it anyway. We shall see what happens now, if anything, I guess. I don't love her, & I don't think I ever did......which of course does not make me a lousy person.

Sitting back here, I think your hiding the jeezuzz thing is a funny sort of kid type prank. Maybe you can see it that way too.

Comment by kara on February 21, 2013 at 9:54am

Hi all. Hope every one is well. I haven't really talked much here but I'm finding my anger and hurt are coming to the surface again. You see it's coming up for my birthday followed by mothers day and I've been estranged from my superstitious religious narcissist mother for roughly a year. It's been a tough year but there has also been healing. But there's one odd thin that keeps playing in my head, it's no where near the worst thing she ever did but it's been niggling at me for a while and I've never talked about it before. You see I used to hide baby jesus. I know weird sentence but at christmas mum would set up the little beautiful nativity scene and i would always proclaim that baby jesus wasn't born yet so he shouldn't be in the scene. I would take out little poly resin christ and hide him, different places every year. She would pretend to be annoyed and look for him and then on xmas eve I would dig him out at midnight and we would open one present. This carried on even till adulthood. Except the last time I did it, I was semi pagan with a fair dash of atheist and she knew this, she had claimed to be ok with it but when she noticed baby jesus was missing yet again she spat at me that I was being disrespectful of her faith and why did I care I was a pagan. It's strange but this has been a source of pain for me and remains so. was i foolish to think my childhood and family traditions would tolerate change?

Comment by Dyslexic's DOG on February 19, 2013 at 8:09pm

Looks like a nice place James, definitely worth checking out!

Comment by James M. Martin on February 19, 2013 at 7:38pm

Richard, I always bring up the moral inconsistencies, especially in this age of presentism, which I define as an attempt to impose 6,000-year-old ethical standards on the 21st century people.  I point to Genesis, too, and to the story of Lot in particular.  After fleeing Sodom, which, we are told, God destroyed because of its homosexuality, Lot first sees his wife turned into a pillar of salt, then impregnates his own daughters to ensure continuation of his line.  Thus, it may easily be seen, God hates queers, but he approves of father-daughter incest.  Seems to me we have enough incestuous pedophiles in our prisons today.

Comment by Dyslexic's DOG on February 19, 2013 at 7:33pm

Though that should be fairly  obvious, since Australia has had 2 atheist leaders in Gough Whitlam and now Julia Gillard.

Being an publicly known atheist doesn't lesson their chances of winning here, she is still neck-to-neck with her conservative theist opposition.

So, atheism is actually considered normal or common in Australia.


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