Joan, you said it in spades. To honor oneself or respect oneself, one of the first requirements is To Take Responsibility For Oneself. Yeah, it means accepting the blame for the bloody noses and burnt fingers you get stuck with, but it also means taking credit for the first-place finishes and the assists which allow others you help to excel as well. Giving one's will or choice over to some unseen deity amounts to one of the larger cop-outs I've ever heard of, a foolish and self-defeating exercise and one I have exactly ZERO desire to opt for.
I'm also reminded of the logo which the terrific atheist YouTuber, TheraminTrees has on his YouTube home-page:
Perfect! I shall share. Thanks
I like that logo Loren.
Napoleon, the pic looks like the retreat from Moscow, not the advance toward it. Irony?
Yes, I see the irony. This often used quote is also attributed to Andrew Jackson. It works in some situations like selling and sport but is inappropriate for professionals. Thanks for pointing that out.
Better than merely well said, Joan, and timely, too.
Right now I'm dealing with a once-active AmVets post whose members became dependent on prayer to open and close meetings and then on a workaholic leader who, in failing to delegate work also failed to develop future leaders.
Loren, I agree with your "...one of the first requirements is To Take Responsibility For Oneself." I saw its importance when, during my recovery from Catholicism, I encountered existentialism.
I'm puzzled by your "...accepting the blame for the bloody noses and burnt fingers...."
I would have written "...coping with the bloody noses and burnt fingers...."
I was a black & white thinker when I was religious, but I'm getting over it since I became atheist.
I don't honor them either Joan!
In general I agree with you, Joan. But we're human beings. I think people have the right to be regressed from time to time, when they feel overwhelmed by their problems. To give themselves a little vacation from adult responsibility. This isn't the same as shucking responsibility to think as a way of life. Some ways of not thinking for a while are more functional than others.
We can escape into books, movies, TV, needlepoint, gardening, running, or beer. Psychologically escaping from adult responsibility into religion is no doubt tempting for many who feel they can't handle life at that moment, but that's like escaping into drugs.
The problem is, Ruth, that religion might as well be a drug. It is an addiction which is strong and persuasive, and going cold-turkey can result in severe withdrawal. Worse, people see this particular drug not only as acceptable but necessary. How would you feel if someone insisted that "sparking up" every day should be a mandatory part of your life? We both know the answer to that one.
Certainly, sometimes temporary escape is necessary and can be an important safety valve to one's life, especially in the madhouse which is sometimes the 21st century. But when escape amounts to abdicating personal responsibility in favor of a supernatural being which shows no sign of existence ... well, we passed the line about three parsecs ago.
Ruth, I agree with you wholeheartedly. In fact, I would go so far as to say anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, stress, guilt, shame, feeling helpless and hopeless are all signals our bodies give us to warn that something needs to be thought about and action taken. It also implies sitting in a quiet place, or doing one of the distractions you listed with the intent to get a clear mind and more effective thinking. The USArmy mandated R & R for my former husband and other military personnel. No such R & R is mandated for single heads of household mothers overwhelmed with lack of resources. They really need it. And with the newly unemployed men and women who are used to working for wages, they often get stuck, unable to think or act. Time out is part of the process and I need to put more stress on that. Thanks for the heads up.