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Permalink Reply by Prog Rock Girl on February 18, 2011 at 5:37pm

My husband is Catholic too although not all serious and pro-life about it (I couldn't deal with that!) I have had a few times where I brought up the latest bullshit of the Catholic church and he kind of just didn't want to hear it. I didn't want to push him about it although I did get mad when he gave money to the church on one of the rare occasions he actually went to service.

 

People talk about deconverting people, challenging people, and I like to have debates and all that, but we also do interact with theists in our lives and for me if I always tried to challenge and deconvert everyone it would be too much like trying to turn everyone into me. I don't really think I am that great that everyone should be like me, and since my views change throughout my life this becomes hypocritical anyway. He believes in God and it makes him happy...actually, even though I have no intention of becoming religious, I kind of like this about him. It's one aspect of his overall positive personality. How is your boyfriend's outlook other than just being theist? If the person doesn't have the usual religious baggage, sometimes believing in God isn't that big of a detail.

Permalink Reply by Samantha Madison on February 19, 2011 at 2:56pm

Thats what im starting to realize- Its not that big of a deal. It just upsets me because I look at religion as a weakness of the mind, and I dont like that my partner isnt as mentally stable as me. But what are you gonna do-love trumps all I guess. My boyfriend is probably the sweetest man I have ever met-its crazy. He is so positive -always looks on the brighter side of things (but not annoying about it) Always looking to have a fun time-wants me to try all kinds of activities with him. He plays hockey and soccer (beer leagues lol) but still very athletic. Im 20 and I have a kid (please dont judge bad 4 year relation-shit!) and he doesnt care at all-he helps so much with my daughter when he doesnt have to, b/c her dad is still in the picture and to be honest I dont want to look like a young needy mother-im too independent for that. But I do appreciate it. He is just really awesome, and I feel that I would be an idiot to give up on something so special just because of religion. To be honest religion means so little to me that I should be able to date a "witness on wheels" and not have a problem with hearing about the "good word" all damn day :) I look at it like this as long as he doesnt try to push his bullshit on me then I dont have a problem with it, also he knows im bringing my daughter up Atheist, so as long as he respects that and doesnt try to influence her in any way. And of course I cant predict the future but if we ever have kids together then its his kid too so he can tell them whatever he wants but I told him no communion or baptism- we shall see lol!