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Parenting Little Heathens

Atheists don't have a lot of parenting resources that speak directly to them. Come chat about all things parenting here.

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Hi moms and dads. Welcome to the parenting without religion group here at A|N. Please feel free to post an introduction, tell us about yourself or if you'd rather not, just jump right into any discussion.

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Discussion Forum

Helping kids handle the transition out of religion

Started by Amy. Last reply by John Hayes on Monday. 1 Reply

Hi, I'm new to atheism, and I tried coming out slowly to my 6 year old son, but after his school christmas program, things sort of sped up on the car ride home. He really freaked out when I told him…Continue

Omega 3s during pregnancy diets determine that child's math scores

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11. 0 Replies

The current US diet, high in corn and soybean products, harms the brain of your developing fetus. Pregnant women need lots of omega 3's and a lot less omega 6's. Nearly half of the difference in…Continue

Children in megacities get brain damage

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11. 0 Replies

Air pollution harmful to young brains, study findsAir pollution in large cities damages children's…Continue

Tags: brain damage, air pollution

Protecting oxygen-deprived newborns

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 11. 0 Replies

Cooling protects oxygen-deprived infantsWe always fear our newborn being temporarily deprived…Continue

Tags: birth complications

Breastfeeding moms need 5,000 - 6,000 IU of D per day

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jun 21. 0 Replies

Vitamin D and the nursing motherHuman milk, in most nursing mothers, contains very little vitamin D. Infant…Continue

Tags: vitamin D deficiency in babies

Nursing mothers need 5,000-6,000 IU of vitamin D

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jun 8. 0 Replies

Vitamin D and the nursing motherAn "adequate" intake for nursing mothers is not the 400 IU/d the IOM…Continue

Tags: nursing, vitamin D

Healthy diet bfore pregnancy and preterm birth

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 24. 0 Replies

Poor diet before pregnancy linked with preterm birthWomen who ate more protein and fruit before pregnancy…Continue

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Don't tell kids they're too fat

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 29. 0 Replies

Stop Calling Young Girls ‘Fat’Encouraging fitness activities and…Continue

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Brain injuries during youth sports can predispose for homelessness

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 26. 0 Replies

A traumatic brain injury sustained in childhood or early teenage years could predispose someone to homelessness as an adult.Dr. Topolovec-Vranic looked at data on 111 homeless men aged 27 to 81 years…Continue

Tags: homeless, childhood brain injury

Don't let kids under four cry it out

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Annie Thomas Apr 23. 1 Reply

Four in 10 infants lack strong parental attachmentsWhen parents feel too overwhelmed to soothe crying…Continue

Tags: soothe a crying child, secure attachment

Parenting Teen Drivers

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 20. 0 Replies

If you have teenaged drivers, share this.Teen drivers were six times more likely to have a serious incident when there was loud conversation in the vehicle — to the point of needing to make an…Continue

Tags: teen driver safety

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Comment by Michelle on July 5, 2011 at 9:06pm

Annie,

I have to be honest, my first reaction was to laugh.  My son [8] has started telling people he's and atheist too and the pledge had a bit to do with his outing.  Upon further discussion I found that the reason he doesn't like the Christians is that the ones with which he has to contend go around telling him and others they are going to hell.  Good luck converting him now guys! That is why he tells them, I don't believe in that, I'm an Atheist. 

Kids will naturally talk about theses things and you can bet they are "proselytizing" to some extent to your daughter too, she just seems to have the better argument. 

For our personal rules we allow it provided it is among peers and no adults are involved.  I'm not sure if that was helpful. :/

Comment by Annie Thomas on July 5, 2011 at 6:07pm

Hi Vitomama-

 

My daughter is 12, and she declared herself an atheist at age 5 (of course, she didn't use that term, but simply said there is no proof of any gods).  She's pretty firm on where she stands. She was a born skeptic, and has been raised as such.

 

The problem (which may be too strong of a term really) is that she is now encouraging her friends to question their belief systems.  Two have deconverted, another has stated that she is Christian and doesn't want to talk about it.  She and I talked about how she must respect her friend's beliefs (and we also talked about not being too pushy).

 

As I wrote to John, I think middle school is a very natural time for children to question the culture they were raised in, but I wonder if anyone else has had issues where their child was trying to deconvert others.  There have been no problems for other parents, but I know that I would be a little angry if say, one of my daughter's friends was proselytizing in the cafeteria.  She says it just comes up in discussions, especially when one another child hears her omit the "under god" portion of the pledge at school.

 

I appreciate your response, and I too look forward to more discussions. 

Comment by Vitomama on July 1, 2011 at 4:52pm
Hey Annie! We have a 7 year old boy who constantly questions his friends' statements about church/god. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "the religion they were born into". It certainly shouldn't be that way. We have to constantly remind Vito that he's far too young to make decisions like that. We're anti-theist, but he has a lot to learn before he can even understand those concepts. When we ask him why he doesn't believe in god, he always says "Because YOU don't". We tell him that's not good enough. That really is the problem. Children just take on what their parents believe. We do, however, give him various reasons why WE don't believe in god. We're very science-oriented. We always talk about the solar system, the element table, the science of dating objects, atoms, the awesome reality of infinity, etc. But, yes, most of his friends have been "born into" some form of christianity. We have had to be "that parent" a couple of times concerning issues at his school (once in Oklahoma and once here in Connecticut - [it was a good relocation]), but they were resolved favorably. I don't know how old your daughter is, but as for Vito and his friends, they usually end up moving on to a sword fight or some other activity without my having to step in. I look forward to more conversations with you and others here. It really is a tricky business trying to make sure we don't indoctrinate the way others do. All we want for Vito is to have knowledge and self-esteem - the rest will follow. Cheers!
Comment by Annie Thomas on June 13, 2011 at 4:42pm
Thanks, John.  Luckily, we live in a nice little pocket of reason within the state (university town).  I think she is just at that age where many children start to question the religion they were born into, and so it makes sense that her friends might be doing that.  She seems to be talking with a lot of friends about it, and she's always been open about her lack of beliefs.  Just wondering if any other parents have experienced this.
Comment by Annie Thomas on June 13, 2011 at 10:50am

Introduction

Hi Everyone!  My name is Annie and I just joined this lovely site.  I am the mother of an amazing 12 year old daughter.  We have this raising an atheist thing down pretty well, but a recent issue we're dealing with is that my daughter is starting to deconvert her friends.  No nasty phone calls from other parents yet, but I wonder if any of you have dealt with this.  I simply tell her to be respectful of other people's opinions and the family culture in which they live. 

I look forward to getting to know you, and participating in this community.

Comment by AgeOfAtheists14 on May 20, 2011 at 7:00am
Comment by Dawn K on May 18, 2011 at 8:17am
Comment by carl on May 11, 2011 at 1:17am
yes its serious.
Comment by Dawn K on May 3, 2011 at 8:09am

Hey everyone. Just wanted to mention that I will be checking in here only occasionally for a bit. We just bought a house and are busy with the usual tasks home buying entails.

Comment by Alice on April 30, 2011 at 1:25am
Go Egan! : ) I've got 3 of them - and do my best to treat them like people -
 

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