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Parenting Little Heathens

Atheists don't have a lot of parenting resources that speak directly to them. Come chat about all things parenting here.

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Welcome to Parenting Little Heathens

Hi moms and dads. Welcome to the parenting without religion group here at A|N. Please feel free to post an introduction, tell us about yourself or if you'd rather not, just jump right into any discussion.

Before you get started I would like you to be familiar with our Posting Rules and Guidelines. This will help clarify what this group is and what topics are appropriate or inappropriate.

Also, you might be interested in our list of atheist related parenting resources list. This is a work in progress, if you've found something you think is a good fit please post a reply and I'll see about adding it.

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-Dawn K

Discussion Forum

Protecting oxygen-deprived newborns

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 11. 0 Replies

Cooling protects oxygen-deprived infantsWe always fear our newborn being temporarily deprived…Continue

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Breastfeeding moms need 5,000 - 6,000 IU of D per day

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jun 21. 0 Replies

Vitamin D and the nursing motherHuman milk, in most nursing mothers, contains very little vitamin D. Infant…Continue

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Nursing mothers need 5,000-6,000 IU of vitamin D

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jun 8. 0 Replies

Vitamin D and the nursing motherAn "adequate" intake for nursing mothers is not the 400 IU/d the IOM…Continue

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Healthy diet bfore pregnancy and preterm birth

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 24. 0 Replies

Poor diet before pregnancy linked with preterm birthWomen who ate more protein and fruit before pregnancy…Continue

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Don't tell kids they're too fat

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 29. 0 Replies

Stop Calling Young Girls ‘Fat’Encouraging fitness activities and…Continue

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Brain injuries during youth sports can predispose for homelessness

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 26. 0 Replies

A traumatic brain injury sustained in childhood or early teenage years could predispose someone to homelessness as an adult.Dr. Topolovec-Vranic looked at data on 111 homeless men aged 27 to 81 years…Continue

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Don't let kids under four cry it out

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Annie Thomas Apr 23. 1 Reply

Four in 10 infants lack strong parental attachmentsWhen parents feel too overwhelmed to soothe crying…Continue

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Parenting Teen Drivers

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 20. 0 Replies

If you have teenaged drivers, share this.Teen drivers were six times more likely to have a serious incident when there was loud conversation in the vehicle — to the point of needing to make an…Continue

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Lied-to kids are more dishonest

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 21. 0 Replies

Lied-to children more likely to cheat, lieMost parents admit to lying to their children sometimes, while…Continue

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Toxic Products at local stores

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 16. 0 Replies

Healthy Stuff. org tests products and informs the public. Check their Retail Center for stores you use.…Continue

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Acetaminophen during pregnancy & ADHD

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 26. 0 Replies

A Danish study found that mothers who took acetaminophen while pregnant had more children with ADHD.Use of…Continue

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Comment by atheistscot on August 23, 2011 at 4:18am

Thanks for the welcome, Melody.

I wasn't raised as an atheist by my family. It seems I was born an atheist, or became one very early in life. I was curious to see how my son's beliefs would develop growing up with two atheist parents. I have tried to keep the issue low key and not tell him what to believe or not believe. I want him to grow into a young man with a rational, enquiring mind who reads widely and makes his own decisions about his beliefs. I agree with Richard Dawkins' view that it's incorrect to refer to a young child as a Christian/Muslim/Hindu child - he or she is the child of Christian/Muslim/Hindu parents.

My son attends our local school. They have visits from the local Church of Scotland minister, an annual nativity play, easter services, etc. They are also taught about other faiths. He would occasionally come home and repeat bible stories he'd heard at school, but as he talked about the characters and storylines in The Simpsons with the same seriousness, I wasn't too worried. It became apparent that he saw them for what they were - stories.

Of course, over the years he has been soaking up the sceptical, religion-free atmosphere at home, even just overhearing his father and I talking. He tells me now, at the age of ten, quite emphatically, that he is an atheist and doesn't believe there is a god or any sort of afterlife. 

Comment by Ava Wilson on August 22, 2011 at 7:32pm
I have a two year old. She's not old enough to understand any of this, but I have a feeling she will grow up as secular-minded as I did.
Comment by Melody Mitchell on August 22, 2011 at 7:51am
Welcome aboard, Donna!
Comment by atheistscot on August 22, 2011 at 4:04am
Hi, my name is Donna, I'm new to Atheist Nexus and this is the first group I've joined. I'm the mother of a ten year old boy and have been married for 17 years to a fellow atheist.
Comment by Annie Thomas on July 7, 2011 at 5:30pm

No, my apologies.  I just reread what I wrote and it sounded more confrontational in black and white than it did in my head. I just meant maybe you had a good anecdote to share. 

 

I too find it exciting that some of our kids are in a climate where it is safe to be who they are.  I just worry about a potential witch hunt on my daughter some day... hopefully she is in a progressive enough school that it will never be an issue.

Comment by Michelle on July 7, 2011 at 4:25pm
I'm sorry, Annie, I didn't mean anything wrong by it.  It's just not what I  expected.  It seems that atheism is becoming more common so instead of being worried about our kids being sucked into religion they seem to be feeling more able to change minds.  That never seemed to happen when I was in Jr. high and that was only 25 years ago.
Comment by Annie Thomas on July 5, 2011 at 9:44pm

 

 

It was helpful, though I'm not sure I get why your first response was to laugh.   It's funny, my daughter had an incident on the 1st grade playground, where a bunch of Christian children surrounded her and said, "Oh, yeah?  If there's no god, who made the trees/beach/lakes/etc.??  She noticed them as being nutty right then.  I don't mind what she's doing... she's just talking with friends.  My question stemmed from an anticipation of the backlash this might cause once parents get word.  Her current school seems to have a pretty big atheist population (the kids actually use the pledge as a way to find out who thinks as they do, and they've connected).  My husband and I have both been atheists since we were old enough to think for ourselves, but we always remained quiet about it.  I hope to make it easier for my very vocal daughter to navigate through a world of believers.

 

Comment by Michelle on July 5, 2011 at 9:06pm

Annie,

I have to be honest, my first reaction was to laugh.  My son [8] has started telling people he's and atheist too and the pledge had a bit to do with his outing.  Upon further discussion I found that the reason he doesn't like the Christians is that the ones with which he has to contend go around telling him and others they are going to hell.  Good luck converting him now guys! That is why he tells them, I don't believe in that, I'm an Atheist. 

Kids will naturally talk about theses things and you can bet they are "proselytizing" to some extent to your daughter too, she just seems to have the better argument. 

For our personal rules we allow it provided it is among peers and no adults are involved.  I'm not sure if that was helpful. :/

Comment by Annie Thomas on July 5, 2011 at 6:07pm

Hi Vitomama-

 

My daughter is 12, and she declared herself an atheist at age 5 (of course, she didn't use that term, but simply said there is no proof of any gods).  She's pretty firm on where she stands. She was a born skeptic, and has been raised as such.

 

The problem (which may be too strong of a term really) is that she is now encouraging her friends to question their belief systems.  Two have deconverted, another has stated that she is Christian and doesn't want to talk about it.  She and I talked about how she must respect her friend's beliefs (and we also talked about not being too pushy).

 

As I wrote to John, I think middle school is a very natural time for children to question the culture they were raised in, but I wonder if anyone else has had issues where their child was trying to deconvert others.  There have been no problems for other parents, but I know that I would be a little angry if say, one of my daughter's friends was proselytizing in the cafeteria.  She says it just comes up in discussions, especially when one another child hears her omit the "under god" portion of the pledge at school.

 

I appreciate your response, and I too look forward to more discussions. 

Comment by Vitomama on July 1, 2011 at 4:52pm
Hey Annie! We have a 7 year old boy who constantly questions his friends' statements about church/god. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "the religion they were born into". It certainly shouldn't be that way. We have to constantly remind Vito that he's far too young to make decisions like that. We're anti-theist, but he has a lot to learn before he can even understand those concepts. When we ask him why he doesn't believe in god, he always says "Because YOU don't". We tell him that's not good enough. That really is the problem. Children just take on what their parents believe. We do, however, give him various reasons why WE don't believe in god. We're very science-oriented. We always talk about the solar system, the element table, the science of dating objects, atoms, the awesome reality of infinity, etc. But, yes, most of his friends have been "born into" some form of christianity. We have had to be "that parent" a couple of times concerning issues at his school (once in Oklahoma and once here in Connecticut - [it was a good relocation]), but they were resolved favorably. I don't know how old your daughter is, but as for Vito and his friends, they usually end up moving on to a sword fight or some other activity without my having to step in. I look forward to more conversations with you and others here. It really is a tricky business trying to make sure we don't indoctrinate the way others do. All we want for Vito is to have knowledge and self-esteem - the rest will follow. Cheers!
 

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