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Parenting Little Heathens

Atheists don't have a lot of parenting resources that speak directly to them. Come chat about all things parenting here.

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Welcome to Parenting Little Heathens

Hi moms and dads. Welcome to the parenting without religion group here at A|N. Please feel free to post an introduction, tell us about yourself or if you'd rather not, just jump right into any discussion.

Before you get started I would like you to be familiar with our Posting Rules and Guidelines. This will help clarify what this group is and what topics are appropriate or inappropriate.

Also, you might be interested in our list of atheist related parenting resources list. This is a work in progress, if you've found something you think is a good fit please post a reply and I'll see about adding it.

If at any time you would like to contact me, the easiest way is to send a private message through my page. However, in order to send any member a PM you must first be their friend.

Thank you for joining the group, I hope you enjoy being here.

-Dawn K

Discussion Forum

Live tweets from an abstinence-based "sex ed" class

Started by Grinning Cat Apr 17. 0 Replies

(OK, for not-so-little heathens...) Funny and horrifying -- Alice Dreger, a professor of medical humanities and bioethics, live-tweeted sitting in on her son's abstinence-based "sex education" class,…Continue

Tags: sex ed, abstinence-only, abstinence-based, awesome parents, sex education

Breastfed babies have less colic

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 6. 0 Replies

Babies who were only breastfed had a smoother transition to solid food, in this study.Another breastfeeding…Continue

Tags: colic, breastfeeding

Helping kids handle the transition out of religion

Started by Amy. Last reply by John Hayes Dec 22, 2014. 1 Reply

Hi, I'm new to atheism, and I tried coming out slowly to my 6 year old son, but after his school christmas program, things sort of sped up on the car ride home. He really freaked out when I told him…Continue

Omega 3s during pregnancy diets determine that child's math scores

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11, 2014. 0 Replies

The current US diet, high in corn and soybean products, harms the brain of your developing fetus. Pregnant women need lots of omega 3's and a lot less omega 6's. Nearly half of the difference in…Continue

Children in megacities get brain damage

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11, 2014. 0 Replies

Air pollution harmful to young brains, study findsAir pollution in large cities damages children's…Continue

Tags: brain damage, air pollution

Protecting oxygen-deprived newborns

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 11, 2014. 0 Replies

Cooling protects oxygen-deprived infantsWe always fear our newborn being temporarily deprived…Continue

Tags: birth complications

Breastfeeding moms need 5,000 - 6,000 IU of D per day

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jun 21, 2014. 0 Replies

Vitamin D and the nursing motherHuman milk, in most nursing mothers, contains very little vitamin D. Infant…Continue

Tags: vitamin D deficiency in babies

Nursing mothers need 5,000-6,000 IU of vitamin D

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jun 8, 2014. 0 Replies

Vitamin D and the nursing motherAn "adequate" intake for nursing mothers is not the 400 IU/d the IOM…Continue

Tags: nursing, vitamin D

Healthy diet bfore pregnancy and preterm birth

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 24, 2014. 0 Replies

Poor diet before pregnancy linked with preterm birthWomen who ate more protein and fruit before pregnancy…Continue

Tags: premature birth, diet

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Comment by Keia on May 21, 2009 at 9:38am
Angie, i feel the same way you do about your insecurities of not being able to do more or to give your son the best. I hate the idea of feeding my daughter foods treated with pesticides and hormones. I hate the idea of eating animals that may have come from a factory and been brutally slaughtered and so on. Right now, I can only do what I can. I am lucky I have a boyfriend who cares enough about us to help, but he is stressed. I have been trying to find a job for months to no avail. My daughter's dad is useless. As single moms, we can only do our best right now and make sure our kids are taken care of properly.
Comment by Joseph on May 20, 2009 at 1:05pm
Carrie, do you have any community colleges close to your location? If you could get a job there then you would be able to attend any state school for free since community colleges are all state funded. Jobs in housekeeping for instance could be full or part time, and you could work late afternoons to avoid childcare costs. Please don't take the aforementioned suggestion the wrong way. I know that staying at home and keeping a family together is already a fulltime job, especially in the current economic conditions. I really hope things get better for both you and Angie.
Comment by Angie Jackson on May 19, 2009 at 1:59pm
Sydni I can see what you mean about coming from different perspectives. Although I feel very confident in my "atheist identity" as you put it, the majority of my friends, family, other parents, etc. are all Christian here in FL. I've been openly atheist for 12 months now (just had my "anniversary" last week) and as you said, certainly had a very different perspective. I'll admit that my feelings regarding the eco-posts may be my own insecurities. I've always wanted to do as much as I can for the environment, for starving children, etc. and feel a certain amount of compassion fatigue that I can't do more. While I love being home with my son, it's due to the economy. Which means at any moment, we could lose our home. We have risked eviction that past three months and it's only through some serious struggling, finagling, bartering, bargaining, and begging that we aren't living in a homeless shelter right now. So I think at times seeing all the posts about how mac & cheese is a cigarette or non-organic milk is going to give my son cancer depresses and worries me, and there's nothing I can do about it. I have to keep our meals to about 50 cents per serving to be afford for both of us to eat at least three times every day. That's a real struggle, and I tend to be perfectionistic in my parenting (a holdover from religious days) and when I simply CAN'T provide my son the best, I feel inadequate and guilty. Again - I'll freely admit this is my own issue and not anyone else's fault or cause, but it is a struggle for me.
Comment by Angie Jackson on May 18, 2009 at 9:38pm
Carrie I know what you mean. My family was rapture ready, racist, anti-gay, and kind of fringe-loony-survivalist to boot. I'm amazed at some of what I was told or put through. Obviously I see the biggest differences as a) no indoctrination, b) access to proper medical care, and c) no physical abuse/ "discipline". We can rise above our roots and flourish big strong branches. I agree that most atheist parents I've met are laid back, loving, accepting, etc. I told my mom the reason I'm a better mother than she was (her words) is because I don't worry about my son's immortal soul, just getting him to adult hood with reasonably good social skills and a strong ethical center. It's much less stressful for me.
Comment by Angie Jackson on May 18, 2009 at 8:40pm
I absolutely would do more in all kinds of areas if it were financially feasible - I'd spend more time at home playing w/ my son if I didn't have to work, I'd use solar power if I had the resources for set up costs, I'd drive a hybrid car if I could afford one (till then I'll walk and ride the BUS - a "green" thing poor people never seem to get credit for). But, on the plus side, I make small steps, and instill a sense of appreciation for the wonderful world around us in my son, in the sense of the environment, and in people, cultures, differences and similarities. Everyday I get to learn more about the person my son is becoming, and that's something that surely we can all agree on.
Comment by Angie Jackson on May 18, 2009 at 5:35pm
@all - I'm not complaining. Sydni I appreciate how much time you devote to this group. But I've posted a few times myself as well. I guess I feel (like I did when I went to arts school) that my "hippie credentials" are being questioned. Maybe that's too sensitive? Parenting is such a huge range of issues - nutrition, exercise, environment, safety, current events, science, religion, fears, nightmares, adorable things said/done, special needs/considerations, talking, walking, toilet training, televiewing, singing, dancing... etc. But at times it feels like this isn't so much an "atheist parents" group as a "vegan eco parents" group. And while I like to do my part to reduce carbon footprint, the fact is that those things cost money. I'm a single welfare mother. I try to do the best I can in ALL the areas of my son's life, not just in food and chemical hazards. That's all I meant by it.

(See today's post on family size for an example of a parenting topic that's somewhat related to atheism)
Comment by Wendy on May 18, 2009 at 5:16pm
I'm interested in the planet's health and all of that but 1) I have VERY little time to read huge articles (being a parent of two right now) and 2) I was hoping for more "how do you deal with the constant religious influence in your child's life" discussions./

Have I posted any discussions? No, and I'm sorry for that. But again I'll play the "mother of a 4 year old and a 1 year old being pulled in 8000 different directions with only being able to be online about 5 minutes at a time" card
Comment by Angie Jackson on May 18, 2009 at 3:26pm
@ Carrie, lol. I kind of agree. I was interested in learning how other parents raised their kids godless, not acquiring new guilt about being an omnivore who can't afford organic foods
Comment by Jennifer spinney gutierrez on April 15, 2009 at 12:25am
I definitely think that comparative mythology is a great tool for developing skeptical thinking tools in young children. I remember being fascinated as a child by creation and afterlife myths from different cultures, and it didn't take me long to figure out that if those stories were myths then perhaps the bible stories that my parents presented to me as fact were indeed nothing more than fairy tales. As much as I hate the idea of reading those stories to my kids, it may be the best way to arm them against the attempts of some of our Christian friends and family to "save them" from our godless state.

We do our best to put the focus on science. It's easy and fun! Kids have a natural curiosity about science so it's a natural "substitute". For church in our family. Living in Vancouver we have lots of resources available to us; science world, the Vancouver aquarium, Seattle science museum is close by as well.

I have a great book called 100 science experiments to do with kids that I got through usborne books, of all places and I refer to it quite a bit as well. It's spring, so try sprouting beans or seeds, bug collecting, rain meters, etc.
Comment by Paul O'Brien on March 11, 2009 at 9:36am
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