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Permalink Reply by Sixfeetunderthegun on June 22, 2009 at 4:26pm

I can almost understand why she holds on. I think she realizes that, if she confronts this, it'll be a huge crisis of faith. She's too smart to not understand the evidence against her point of view, but changing everything you believe is scary.

But, you're right, it's a shitty situation and I'm not happy to be in it. I think it'll work out, but it honestly may require some sort of actually counseling for the both of us.

Permalink Reply by Chris McCain on June 29, 2009 at 5:25pm

I understand how you feel. Our daughter is only 11 mo. old. I have a problem with her growing up in the church. I don't really want her to hear about god all the time until she is old enough to separate fact from fiction! Not gonna be easy because both our parents are super Jesusy. The more I think about it the more I realize I need to relax and take it as it comes. My wife does believe in God. We have decided to each tell her how we feel and answer her questions as she asks them, being certain to let her know that her mommy or daddy feel a different way. I don't think it will be possible to keep her away from hearing about god, but some people say if you wanna make a child an atheist - send them to church. I think when she hears about god from her grandparents or whoever, it will provide an opportunity, without calling them fools, to talk about the issue and guide her with your viewpoints. I think the most important thing is to talk with you gal and let her know how strongly you feel about religion and why, and why you want your daughter to/or not to be exposed to religious stuff. You guys gotta agree on letting each other be honest with her without stepping on each others feelings and still showing respect for the other person. Once you have it worked out between the two of you, anything your daughter may be exposed to is a chance for you to her guide her properly.

Permalink Reply by Joseph on July 14, 2009 at 6:39pm

Your practical solution is: Start going to Church?

Permalink Reply by Julie N. W. on July 19, 2009 at 1:48pm

My husband is a Christian, though not a church goer. We had the discussion of our different beliefs and how we would raise our kids before we were married. We pretty much decided that we would both be honest about our views, encourage them to learn and ask questions, and ultimately leave it up to them what they decide to believe in. I don't mind him teaching our kids about his religious beliefs, only I do have an objection when it comes to science instruction. Ultimately, you don't have too much of a say in the education of the older child, but being invested in his upbringing you should have a voice. You definatley should have a voice when it comes to your own biological child. I think it also depends on how serious you are with your girlfriend. You refer to them as your family, so that is an indication, but are you two committed to eachother in a marriage sense (I understand that people could choose not to be married but still have the same relationship). Your commitment to your girlfriend may decide how you might want to approach this.

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