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Comment by Joan Denoo on January 18, 2013 at 11:34pm

The Venus Project Tour With Jacque Fresco Trailer

Comment by Justin Brunk on January 6, 2013 at 5:38pm

Thanks for the invite into the group! :)

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 6, 2013 at 8:37am

No whining?  Well, OK, I'll try :)

I like the go team smilies :)

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 5, 2013 at 7:26pm

Go Team! One for the Atheist Brigade! Powered by good sense, refusing to be a victim, standing up for ourselves and each other, strong, decisive, clear, specific, a backbone of steel and arms of velvet, confident, competent, and compassionate!

NO blaming, accusing, criticizing, nit-picking, name calling, slandering, apologizing,  asking for permission or whining.

Just the facts.

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on January 3, 2013 at 7:37pm

'....was that as good for you as it was for me ?'

Punk Rock Anarchiste Français - Bon Ecoute !

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 3, 2013 at 8:43am

I'll put my hands together for you also Joan.  And I will remember your story the next time I'm in a position like that and it will give me extra courage.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 3, 2013 at 1:38am

Oh Paula and Chris, I know you both are strong, wise and compassionate; this is just an unfamiliar process for you. 

Comment by Chris Breman on January 3, 2013 at 1:01am

Most of the time I'm too cowardly, but I'll try to take a leaf out of your book, Joan.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 3, 2013 at 12:56am

The process is very simple: "Be the cause in the action."
If there is a problem or a conflict or something that bothers you, take the kind of action you would would want done to you. No name calling, blaming, accusing or criticizing. Just state your problem to the one offending you as clearly and honestly as you can; take the kind of action that will make your position clear and what you expect from them.

This doesn't always stop the behavior, but it does make known to them  how they intrude upon you, and you are not a victim. The funny thing about this episode, I am a little old lady, spoke quietly and politely and yet the dining room quieted when I approached their table, sat down and said what I had to say. What was that old commercial when a financial planner spoke in a restaurant and everyone quieted and listened? It was a scene kind of like that. 

Comment by Paula T. on January 2, 2013 at 9:15pm

I agree with Lillie.

Joan, I sincerely wish I had your confidence and ability to speak up for myself...but I know you have earned those skills.  Thank you for sharing that story.

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