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Comment by Phillip Borders on September 20, 2010 at 5:59pm
Howdy, Eric. Welcome to the Buckeye state. I'm sure you have been getting enough Buckeye fever. Where are ya from? What r u studying?
Comment by Eric R. on September 19, 2010 at 9:05pm
Hey y'all. I just moved here to Ohio! I'm Eric, a grad student at OSU.
Comment by Phillip Borders on September 6, 2010 at 11:02am
Thank you all for the comments. They all were helpful.

DH- I do agree with you about coming out as a minority so that the issue can have a face to it. Then, hopefully, the fearful, ignorant(which is most of them) will sees a different side, someone they know which maybe will destigmatize the issue a little by little each time someone comes out. I definitely agree with this for us gays. But, it took time for me to get to that level. I'm hoping I will take the risk soon.
Betsy, Brent and Loren- I am hoping to get to the point that I won't care what others say rather soon. I have found it is easier being my self that hiding.
Nathan- thanks fellow Pastafarian!
Comment by Betsy McCall on September 6, 2010 at 10:37am
Brent, my mom used to tell me I was "too militant" just for openly calling myself an atheist. She thought "agnostic" was less "confrontational". In the beginning, nothing is mild enough; they want you back in the closet. Only by being truthful in a direct fashion, and giving them some time to adjust, can you ever hope they will come around. They won't like it at first, but in the long run, it's better for everyone. I kept my mouth shut until I was sure for myself, after that, hiding it wasn't going to help anyone.
Comment by Loren Miller on September 6, 2010 at 6:42am
I guess I'm old enough and cantankerous enough not to give a damn any more. When the quartet of Jehovah's Witnesses came to my door this past April, I decided I was going to play my cards face-up and if anyone didn't like it - TOUGH - and for the first time in my life, four words passed my lips in public: "I am an atheist."

No, I'm not on Facebook, no, I haven't any family locally, and I'm not certain it would matter if they WERE local. Yes, sometimes I wonder if someone Googles my name as a part of job research (I'm STILL looking nearly two years later), though I did that myself, and my name failed to come up after 7 pages of searches.

Part of this has to do with my past marriage and living a life which was not OPEN. Now I AM open, and it feels infinitely better than not being so. None of my neighbors know I'm an atheist, but then, none of them have asked. I see no reason not to tell them if they want to know what church I go to or whatever, but it will always be with the same friendly attitude I have always approached them.

How they react will be up to them.
Comment by DemonHype on September 6, 2010 at 1:53am
Re: Facebook reactions

Some religious people can be hard to gauge and can surprise you. Sometimes they don't react the way you expect them to (as individuals, of course--as an organized group they're more predictable). I've known pretty darn religious types who just let my atheism slide and can maintain a good friendship, and other, normally more liberal and accepting types, who are just distressed beyond all imagining at my atheism and feel the need to harass me into some kind of faith "for my own good".

Of course, I like to think that has something to do with the growing number of "outs". It's kind of harder to maintain an "atheists iz da debbil" attitude when you are facing someone who you can plainly see is not "da debbil". And it's kind of hard to pursue a persecution of said people when so many of them are visible and know their rights. And I think a lot of believers are still trying to adjust on their individual levels to how this works and have been forced to find ways to co-exist in a civilized manner with unbelievers. A single unbeliever can easily be ignored or stomped down out of sight, but a whole group of them is harder to either ignore or silence. Every atheist who comes out in the open makes it harder for them to vilify atheism or justify discrimination or persecution, and in turn that forces them to come to terms with our existence.

It sometimes seems that I get more annoyance from the more liberal types right now because their belief has less "severe Divine punishment for lack of faith" and more "faith makes people happy, so I want you to be happy!" The former "Divine punishment" type either know how unseemly their threats will look or are forced to maybe reconsider such violent mentality when confronted with a perfectly good person who is an atheist. And the latter, not having those socially unacceptable views and no violent Divine-Wrath mentality, just thinks they're doing you a good turn, like someone who insists you watch their favorite movie/TV series/etc. because it means so much to them and has made them so happy in their life, so they feel they are sharing something wonderful with you that you cannot possibly be happy without. And no matter how much you try to explain how much you despise Twilight, for example, you will still get these people insisting you need to try it or give it another try because they can't IMAGINE how anyone could be happy without obsessing over this series and buying a full-size blow up Edward doll.

Though I'm sure in other places and in other people's experiences they still get a lot of the fire-and-brimstone, Jonathan Edwards, hysterical, violent-natured reactions. Depends on where you are and what kind of mentality dominates the area, I guess.
Comment by Nathan on September 5, 2010 at 10:33pm
I did the same thing you did, Phillip. I'm still in the closet to my family (not sure I'll ever tell them, not that I'm living at college and don't have to worry about them dragging me to church). I didn't want people to think I was Christian, but didn't want family to know I was atheist. To Pastafarian it was!

Anyone familiar with Pastafarianism got the message, and my internet-impaired family thought I was just trying to be silly.
Comment by Brent Beaver on September 5, 2010 at 9:45pm
Phillip, I changed mine to "atheist" about a year ago. I've had some discussions with my Mom about my atheism (she thinks I'm out of my mind....she says, "you weren't raised that way"), had some nice debates with my uber Christian Sister on Facebook (she un-friended me lol) and most of the rest of my relatives on Facebook think I'm batshit. I think I may have been a little too militant about my atheism on Facebook, so I've backed off somewhat, but, unfortunately there really is no easy way to tell relatives (especially the evangelical type) about your atheism.
Comment by Phillip Borders on September 5, 2010 at 5:01pm
Ok, I was on FB and decided to say "Pastafarian" instead "Free Thinker."
This will confuse them. :=)
Comment by Phillip Borders on September 5, 2010 at 4:48pm
Mike, thanks for the input.
One problem is that I have 15 aunts and uncles and more than 30 first cousins and most are on FB. 98% are fundamentalist christian. Unfortunately, many will notice "Atheist."
My family is so consumed with saving everyone from hell. Many would not let up.
After my last comment, I realized that "naturalist" may be misconstrued for nudist(though they would see that as redeemable as opposed to the blashphemy of Athiesm). So, I better not use that.
I will definitley keep an open mind though. I'm going to change it to "Free Thinker" for now.
 

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