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Love sees past many things and that includes religion. You and your significant other my love each other to the death but arguments come up about whats after death. Tell your stories here.

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Wife waiting for God to help us

Started by Mark Schwab. Last reply by Round Peg Apr 16, 2012. 10 Replies 0 Likes

I am married to a very religious wife who puts all of her trust in her belief in god. To wit,we are in a not-very secure financial position, and although she has a job, she doesn't like it and it…Continue

So frustrated!!!!

Started by Shay. Last reply by Steph S. Oct 30, 2011. 5 Replies 1 Like

Hey everyone! I'm new to this site and group. I feel SO alone! I was born/raised roman catholic in NY. My husband too. I don't know what age I stopped believing but I think it was around the…Continue

Which came first?

Started by Prog Rock Girl. Last reply by Facts Before Faith Oct 20, 2011. 30 Replies 0 Likes

Did you become atheist first, or meet your partner first?For me I was in a relationship w/ my Catholic husband, I was in my pagan experiment at the time (being that he was fine with paganism and even…Continue

Inlaws

Started by The Big Blue Frog. Last reply by Steph S. Oct 9, 2011. 4 Replies 0 Likes

My wife is a Christian, albeit a liberal one, and we get along fine. The problem is her family. They are all Southern Baptist fundamentalists (YEC's, biblical inerrantists, etc.) and my wife's mom…Continue

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Comment by Ted Gresham on February 4, 2012 at 3:37pm: My wife is not a fanatical christian, just one who is afraid to turn loose. Around here it's "don't want to hear it." Makes for many conversation free evenings.

Comment by The Big Blue Frog on November 16, 2011 at 10:47am: Article on Slate discusses "mixed" marriages, between believers and nons.

Comment by Round Peg on August 14, 2011 at 10:02am: Blaspheming the holy spirit? I never figured that one out either... but I'm sure I must have done it at least twice :)

Comment by FeloniousD on July 21, 2011 at 1:25am: Hiya :) welcome.
Say, if blaspheming the holy spirit is the only unforgivable sin, shouldn't they spend some time explaining what the hell that actually means?... Just saying it here cuz ya know I can't say it at home. But seriously, wtf God?!

Comment by L.Hunter on April 30, 2011 at 11:37am: Thanks for all the replies. At this point I don't know what's going to happen. We haven't had the chance to talk since last week. Counseling won't help, we tried the Christian counseling thing before. Secular is out of the question, as nothing is more important than god... and "walk not in the counsel of he ungodly".
Sometimes I just want to call it quits, but I don't know....

Comment by FeloniousD on April 29, 2011 at 8:43pm: That would be a terrifying proposition for me. I don't think I ever would go to church-based counselling because, unless they were very moderate, I would be afraid it would be a case of any solution being rooted in "Christ" which I obviously couldn't take part in.

Comment by Round Peg on April 29, 2011 at 8:25pm: The one up-side to church-based marriage counseling? A non-theist consenting to it would send a very strong message to his/her spouse about how much he/she thinks their marriage is worth...

Comment by Round Peg on April 29, 2011 at 8:17pm: Hmm, I almost tried church-based marriage counseling, but then backed out. Mainly because of the requirement of regular church attendance (hour-long Calvinist sermons can become rather grating after a while). And because the counseling would center around Bible passages and other Christian literature. Too bad really, because I count this particular pastor as a friend and I know he has a lot of insight to share from his personal experiences.

Comment by sham on April 28, 2011 at 6:49am: So am I, speaking from experience. From a woman's perspective i see it a little differently. The counseling I received involved the woman bowing down, becoming the weaker vessel, submitting and the sort. But I'm not bitter. I do agree that some of the advice was helpful and I'm not claiming that church counselors and/or pastors are not kind. It's just that the ones I have encountered usually ended up quoting what thus sayeth the lord. Hunter, I hope all is well and that you and your spouse can find a comfortable medium. The discussion of divorce is difficult under any and all circumstances. I’m there myself. It's been a pleasure meeting you Justin :)