Life After Christian Fundamentalism

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Life After Christian Fundamentalism

Recovering from the side effects of Christian fundamentalism is not easy.

•The ongoing fear of Hell
•Rejection from family members
•Ongoing guilt
•Loss of community

If you can relate, join.
This is not a debate group.

Members: 509
Latest Activity: Jul 14

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This group was born out of my meeting with Nate Phelps during the American Atheist Convention in Atlanta.

My wife Angela and I took Nate and his fiancée Angela out to enjoy the evilness of The Varsity. Almost instantly we hit it off, and felt like we had been friends for years. Not only did we have similar backgrounds, but we all shared the desire to help others who were leaving Christian fundamentalism.

I asked Nate to write about his experiences in Atlanta on my blog Life Without Faith. He graciously accepted and you can read it here.

As support for this group, Nate has graciously allowed Atheist Nexus to post the entire transcript of his Atlanta speech. It is long, emotionally moving, and a must read. Check it out here.

Below is a documentary on Nate's Family entitled, "Fall From Grace." Play All Videos In Order (8)

Here is a recent news story featuring my former church:

Brother Richard

Nate's Website: Nate Phelps
My Personal Website: Life Without Faith

Discussion Forum

Video: "Coming Out" to your Evangelical Family

Started by Richard Haynes. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jun 2, 2013. 8 Replies

UU Church

Started by CD Free. Last reply by Dan Tabor Apr 24, 2013. 4 Replies

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Comment by Adelita D on July 15, 2010 at 7:49pm
I am not even sure where to start anymore. My DH and I finally kicked the habit 18 months ago when we took our family out of the church I was born and raised in and he had converted to from the Pentecostal faith....His childhood was better than mine, though there were always lots of questions. His parents have created their own houses of worship along the way and are still very very active. I know he couldn't tell them he doesn't believe anymore or they would be very saddened and upset. They know we don't go to church....but they were glad because our faith had been Mormon and we were all going to Hell. *sigh*

I was born and raised LDS/Mormon. My parents believed that children shouldn't speak their minds, needed to do what they were told, were owned by the parents, etc etc. The beatings were frequent and usually bloody. The violence in my home after age 8 would make most people cringe. I survived, mostly. When I graduated high school I moved out and only lasted 1 year in the church....but a few years later I was found and started going again, mostly due to feelings of guilt and fear. I know it was my mom constantly calling people to try and make sure I was going every Sunday. Even my father went inactive when I was 12, but I still had to go even if that meant being dragged to the car by my hair. My mom was seen as a saint and therefore telling anyone would be met with stares and a trip to the Bishop's office to repent for lying. So I learned to not trust or speak to adults. Of course the sexual assaults and abuse by a babysitter and as well as an Elder in the church were never ever discussed because we weren't allowed to talk about anything sexual, and if someone touched us it must have been 1. what we were wearing, 2. something we did, 3. we deserved it just like the beatings we got that I still have no idea why... (I even asked my mom a couple years ago if I was really that bad a kid and she said "You were the easiest one, you always did everything we asked and we never had issues with you"....WTF? So yeah, we no longer speak. I only have contact with one other sibling and that is fine with me. I miss my dad, but he has been dead for 16 years now. He at least believed science which helped me on this path to break free...

So here I am, feeling a bit guilty for being such a bitch to my mom and sister (who my DH reminds me are narcissistic, always right, and used me regularly) because it has been 8 months since I told them to kiss off....and I know I am the brunt of a lot of family BS now....which is really aggravating.

I am trying to help my children who have had the misfortune of growing up with a religion in our lives. I have never been pushy, never expected them to read or do anything in particular. They have done a lot of reading and looking around and basically agree that religious people are hypocritical most of the time (there are the rare nice ones) and I am trying to help them as well as myself. Most of all I am trying to heal. I still have nightmares, PTSD was diagnosed...I have insomnia sometimes. I have trouble caring about myself the way I care about my kids...I see them as amazing and myself as horrible and unworthy....I don't want my kids to have to go through what I did so we have chosen a different parenting method which seems to be the "wrong" way according to the Branch of the church we just left. I don't think spanking is necessary--ever! I think that kids need a choice in life--heck even Jesus said we had the choice to follow or not....yet church life means you follow or you go to hell...not much of a choice. I am glad I found this site. I read about Nate Phelps life and could relate to a lot of it. The fear, anger, hope of freedom. I just hope I can keep going...my biggest issue...ok one of my biggest issues is what happens now? What is life for and how do I help my kids and our family live it to the fullest. Thanks for listening/reading. I try not to be angry and vent, but sometimes ya just need to right?
Comment by joeyess on June 3, 2010 at 9:18pm
SeeingDuck, what do you mean, "not as polished"? That was great! Cat Stevens, CSNY, Beach Boys, Lovin' Spoonfuls all wrapped in a great little ditty. I loved it and could never do anything like that. See? That's the artist's perspective. We do our work, sculpt it, carve it, shape it, a twist here, a tweek there and viola'! we immediately think it's crap compared to someone else's work. I swear, if there weren't any critics, we'd invent some. Nice work, buddy, nice work.
Comment by joeyess on May 20, 2010 at 12:17pm
Thank you, Fred. Follow me on Twitter and I'll do the same. I have a facebook page as well.

j.
Comment by Fred Rock on May 20, 2010 at 12:21am
Love the tune. Great lyric and video. Your voice has a hint of T Bone Burnett - yet very distinct - thanks for sharing.
Comment by joeyess on May 19, 2010 at 6:06pm
Wrote a song about this nonsense. Here it is;
Comment by joeyess on May 19, 2010 at 5:35pm
Raised Evangelical, speaking in tongues (not me, however), casting out demons and Mogan/David wine and Nabisco Saltines for communion every Sunday @ prayer meeting in Wing Nut Homes in Iowa. Found the whole thing ridiculous when I was 10. Watched the rise of the Moral Majority throughout the 70's and 80's with horror and knew exactly what their agenda was the whole time. Came out to my parents at the ripe old age of 50. When I cast off the yoke of religion it was a freeing experience. No fear. None. Not of god, jesus, ghosts, dracula, werewolves, poltergeists, or armageddon. My only fear is Theocracy. I am prepared to literally die to prevent it.
Comment by Jeff Grable Jr on May 19, 2010 at 5:22pm
Hello one and all. I was born and raised a catholic. My mother and her side of the family are still involved in the church, but I left that behind me some 20 years ago. I still struggle with the thoughts of "hell" and sin, but I realize that these things are all smoke and mirrors placed in my mind by the church for obedience and scare tactics. I joined to learn more about Atheists and hopefully understand through others what it takes to move forward and forget my past life.
Comment by Izzi on March 10, 2010 at 10:25am
Yeah, David, there are a number of them. Nice to be free!
Comment by David on March 8, 2010 at 10:53pm
Izzi, I came out of a group that sounds somewhat similar, but a little bit less extreme. The group fell apart when deep corruption was exposed at the very top (by a man who tried to make it look like he wasn't in charge). We had a kind of partial belief that we were the only way. Other Christians might be "saved", but without our special "heavenly vision", they would miss out on the good stuff, possibly even heaven.

I'm quite surprised as I read about these different extreme groups, and how they have so many similarities.
Comment by Izzi on March 7, 2010 at 6:35am
Glen, I may be interested in such a collaboration, certainly! I started writing about my own exit story, but now I am gathering info on certain aspects of charismatic/pentacostal religion to be included in a novel I am planning. In fact, that was was lead me to atheist nexus.
 

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